(Closed) Spinoff: Waiting to have sex until marriage = quick to marry or not?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: I BELIEVE that waiting to have sex until marriage....

    has no influence on most couples timelines to get married

    influences couples to get married more quickly

    Other (please comment below)

    No idea!!!

  • Post # 62
    245 posts
    Helper bee

    @bmo88:  It can be a factor, but that is very unwise.


    A marriage partner should be chosen on the basis of their personality: integrity, maturity, responsibility etc, and not because they are the first person you want to have sex with.

    In general, the longer one waits to be married, the better.

    And I believe it is best to wait until marriage to have sex, for so many reasons.

    I’m 29 and Fiance is 36, and we’re both virgins and have been dating over 2 years now. We’ve used our years as single adults to develop the qualities that will make our marriage a success, including self-control.

    Post # 63
    208 posts
    Helper bee

    We’re very religious in our beliefs and are waiting til marriage. It’s definitely not easy as time goes on because our passions for each other start to arise but I’m still waiting no matter what. Virgin til marriage.:) It’s very important to me and in what I believe.

    Post # 64
    208 posts
    Helper bee

    I believe that depending on the couple depends on their patience and determination to wait. Its different for all. Even though it is getting harder as time goes on, We didnt decide to get married in our timeframe because of sex. We decided that it was just best for us in general as a couple. But I would say that just like the bible says it is better to marry than to burn with desire as long as the couple truly is fit for one another.

    Post # 64
    4 posts
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I know this thread is old, by I’m commenting in case other people come across it now. 


    No it doesn’t effect how long you wait to get married. I am a virgin, my partner is not. We were friends (who were in love cause we’re stupid :p) for 3 years, then dated for 4 years, and we will be engaged for either 2.5 or 3.5 years. Total relationship of 10 years before marriage (and sex).


    And I have a friend who slept with a guy on their first date and never moved out of his house :p now they have been together 5 or 6 years, have 3 kids and are not married. They got engaged the first year they knew each other.


    People are different and have life events happen in different orders and different times, that’s all.

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