(Closed) SPINOFF: What about polyamorous marriages?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What are your thoughts on marriage equality?
    Homosexual marriage should be legal. Polyamorous marriage should be legal. : (40 votes)
    32 %
    Homosexual marriage should be illegal. Polyamorous marriage should be legal. : (0 votes)
    Homosexual marriage should be legal. Polyamorous marriage should be illegal. : (69 votes)
    55 %
    Homosexual marriage should be illegal. Polyamorous marriage should be illegal. : (12 votes)
    10 %
    Obligatory other : (4 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Don’t forget polyandrists. People always forget polyandrists for some reason when they think of polygamists.

    Personally I’m thinking we should draw the line at marriage being a union of two people though. Polyamory is something I researched when younger and I came to the conclusion that the gender that is receiving a lower mate ratio (that is, there’s less than one member of the opposite sex for each of the person of that sex) is at a disadvantage, especially when that gender is female (as in polygamy).

    Post # 4
    Member
    979 posts
    Busy bee

    If it’s not hurting or affecting me or my family, what do I care? 

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    1507 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Poll options number 4 and 5 are identical. One of them needs to say illegal.

    Post # 7
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    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I have zero issue with polyamorous relationships, but polygamy gets a bit dicey. There are so many legal issues that can happen, and I do not know how to solve them. For example, what if John Doe is sick of his wife Jane, and instead of divorcing, he just goes and marries Sally without Jane’s knowledge? 

    So unless there is some uncomplicated solution to all the legal mess that can arise, I do not see how it can be done.

    Post # 8
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    3941 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    That’s a toughie.  Mainly because in compound situations, there are a lot of women being “married” off to men against their will.  If that was legal, I would see it being a lot harder for some of these women and girls to escape those lives.

    Just to note, I’m not saying that all polygamous relationships are like this.  I know that a lot of polygamous women, and probably a majority, enter these spiritual marriages willingly.

    Post # 10
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    444 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

    Hmm.. This is part of the slippery slope argument. Many people who are ok with gay marriage are not ok with polyamorous marriage. 

    I am pro marriage equality. 

    i don’t have a problem with other people who practice polygamy or polyandry in consenting, ADULT  relationships. One problem I have is that many of the current cultures within the USA which practice these types of relationships (and receive the most publicity for it) seem to take advantage of young, often brainwashed minds.  I am not ok with that. Is there a viable way to seperate polyandry  (generally polygamy) from the abuse?

    historically humans have NOT generally considered marriage to be between only two people. Our culture specifically, today, does. I think it is a step forward when it comes to equal rights for life partners. 

    Post # 11
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think marriage is between two people.

    Post # 12
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    9114 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’m a huge fan of whatever makes people happy.

    If being in a polyamorous marriage/relationship is something you want and consented to, who am I to tell you that you can’t?

    It’s not something I’d do, but if that’s what makes a few people happy, have at it. Love is love is love, man. Someone being polyamorous doesn’t affect or bother me in the slightest. Just as long as everyone is willing, happy, content, safe and consenting, there’s no real argument against it.

    Post # 13
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    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Polyamory and polygyny/polygamy are not the same thing.

    I don’t involve myself in the inner workings of relationships between consenting adults – regardless of gender, sex, or how many consenting adults are involved.

    Post # 14
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    492 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t want be judgemental at all but I really dont understand how someone can be okay with sharing their spouse…. I don’t understant poly relationship 100% so if someone who truly knows could enlighten me that would be awesome. I watch sisterwives so I get all my info from there and we all know TV isnt the best educational source.

    Post # 15
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    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I am not here to judge what choices people make because if it werent for time and laws it would have been against the law for my Fiance to even be seen with me let alone get married.

    We are an interracial couple and we support whatever decisions adults make concerning their lives and happiness.

    Post # 16
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    4375 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think any relationships between consenting adults should be legal.  However, I think that if poly marriages are legalized, the Government needs to lay out clear guidelines for how taxes, dependents, etc. would be handled in that case.

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