(Closed) Spinoff: What DID your BMs do on the day of that was helpful?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7339 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m also subscribing to this one, will come in handy.

Post # 4
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m interested to see the answers, too! I’ve never been a bridesmaid, so I don’t really know what to ‘expect’ out of my friends.

Post # 5
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Favorited this one too. Thanks!

Post # 6
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I only had a Maid/Matron of Honor, but also invited all of my girlies to hang with me and get pampered and pretty in my Bridal suite. One of my girls knew I was disappointed that I had not been able to find a baker to make a croquembouche (french wedding dessert made of profiteroles aka. cream puffs held together with spun sugar) for our dessert, so she stayed up suuuper late the night before the wedding and made me the most delicious profiteroles ever. As I was getting ready for the day, I would just say “cream puff me” and someone would make a yummy cream puff magically appear in my hand. I know it sounds weird, but it was very funny at the time. Anyway, I was beyond touched by the gesture. She wanted to make my wedding dream come true, even if it was on a smaller scale. Now that is a thoughtful friend. <3

Post # 7
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

They kept reminding me to eat/drink in the hours leading up to the ceremony. Without them I probably would have passed out during the ceremony.

They also took turns keeping my mother away from me and and distracted (we don’t have the best relationship) and that in itself was the single best thing they could have done. I was a calm, happy bride because of them.

They also showed up on time, looked beautiful, and stayed relatively sober until the reception started. :p What more could you ask for?

Post # 8
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Day of stuff:

-Be ready to leave on time! Follow the bride’s timeline.

-try really hard to just be calm and not to create drama. Even if the bride is a monster, keep it in on the day of.

-While getting ready my best memories were happy, smiling girls just sitting around drinking champagne.

-One bm wanted to get ready in her room with her bm which kinda bummed me. Idk I guess I just thought that the getting ready time was my time.

I really, really needed someone to carry my extra stuff like cell phone, lipstick, etc.

Post # 9
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I had great bridesmaids. Some things they helped me with:


-Going pee. That is true friendship!

-Changing my shoes

-Getting a bun for me to eat during pictures since I just about passed out. My one bridesmaid held it in the pocket of her dress and between every shot fed me a piece of bun.

-Got dressed up 3 times for my wedding! We had our wedding, then a full second day photo shoot and then an at home reception.

-We got ready in my hotel room so the place was left as kind of a mess as its chaotic when it was time to leave. They took my hotel key without me knowing and cleaned everything up and then layed out rose petals everywhere. So sweet!

I’m sure I could go on and on.

Post # 11
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@PinkMagnolia:  <– Pretty much what she said!

  • Being on time and ready to go/have a good day regardless of how early it was! haha
  • Keeping me calm, reminding me to just chill. I was honestly pretty naturally chill, but my Maid/Matron of Honor was a great reinforcer of this.
  • Keeping things from me. If that makes sense? There are some stories I’ve heard post-wedding that I am SO glad my BMs and Mom kept from me. Examples: One of my BMs dress broke. They fixed it. I never knew. Also apparently my DOC was a bitch and they didn’t even say anything to me about it.
  • My Maid/Matron of Honor literally climbed under my big ol’ dress and took my shoes off for me when I was sick of them. I love her.

Please don’t:

  • Be anti-social or a buzz kill. I had one of those and it took the other two to keep me from being irritated.
  • Act as if my wedding is inconveniencing you. You agreed to be in it. It’s just one day and I was a REALLY relaxed and non-demanding bride. Our wedding was not that complicated.

Post # 12
2073 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My Maid/Matron of Honor kept in contact with our coordinators to make sure we were on schedule.  She called the limo driver to give him her number so he could call us when he arrived at the hotel.  MOH had also given me a day~of emergency kit that ended up coming in handy when I needed double stick tape.  She also ran a bunch of safety pins over to my DH’s room because his best man’s pants were like 4 sizes too big.  My SILs/bridesmaids made sure I attempted to eat.  One SIL fixed the clasp on my grandmother’s necklace so it was stay closed.  My other SIL started singing “going to the chapel” in the limo on the way to the venue and everyone else started in as well.  Even my 2 year old niece/flowergirl got in on the singing.

All three of them, my mom, grandma, and Mother-In-Law were just so happy and excited, it made the morning such a fun, unforgettable experience.

Post # 13
1024 posts
Bumble bee

– Keeping tissue at the ready for me (either for crying or blotting shiny/sweaty spots)

– Keeping my lip balm, lip tint and breath freshener in their purse, ready for whenever I needed them

– Holding a water bottle in a purse during picture time

– Holding the emergency kit

– If I needed answers to questions but had to talk to someone/attend to something, I could send a Bridesmaid or Best Man or my Maid/Matron of Honor to find out

– Biggie: being the support team and excitement sharers that day (my Maid/Matron of Honor was funny – she kept nudging me at random times going, ‘Woo!”). Although I was already ok and everyone at the wedding was very excited, it was really nice to have that.

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