- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Imagine you are in a wonderful relationship. You have so much in common, you connect on a deep level, everything is as great as it could be. After a long time, you trust that this person will love you no matter what – they’ve said it enough times – and you get up the courage to reveal a secret that, while tricky for society, you think will be no problem for this relationship, since it will not actually have any real impact. You gather your will and tell your partner.
Instead of the calm love and acceptance that you expected, they become distraught. You don’t know how this could be any different than saying you were permanently changing your hair color or getting a nose job – it’s superficial, it doesn’t change anything about who you are or what your relationship has been – but they leave you. They end the best relationship either of you had ever had, that would gone on in peace and happiness maybe forever if you had just kept your stupid mouth shut. No one would have ever known and you could have been happy, but no, you wanted to give your whole self to someone and be completely honest, and this is what happened.
If a woman came on here with a story like that, I can guarantee you and everyone else would be on her side, comforting her, telling her that HE was the idiot, HE was the jerk, HE was closed-minded… yet somehow when the roles are changed it’s okay to dissolve a good thing over something so superficial.
No one would think it was okay to divorce your husband becaus he, say, developed a benign growth on his side. Not so nice to look at, maybe, requires some getting used to, sure, but he’s still healthy and he’s still the same person you married… To dump someone for something like that is so incredibly shallow, it shows you can’t ever have really cared for them at all or you’d be able to work past it. Bisexuality is no different, and yet thanks to this absurd idea that even THINKING sexy thoughts about your own sex is wrong and makes you a bad person, we have lives being broken apart over something that by all rights should be no big deal.