- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I couldn’t even fathom it because my husband is a homophobe (he doesn’t behave rudely towards gay people or anything – that wouldn’t fly with me – but he’s kind of grossed out by homosexuality in general). How would I feel if he was? I honestly have no idea. I guess attractive is attractive whether you’re male or female.
Wouldn’t change a damn thing. I’m bi and if my husband was bi it wouldn’t change anything. He still chose me just like I chose him.
I was in a relationship with a bi guy before. Not a dealbreaker. Also would like to add for those people who are freaked out by homosexuality or as one bee put it, “grossed out,” don’t have kids because, you know, they could end up being homosexual and doing “gross things.”
I’d be 95% fine with it!
The other 5% would be a little afraid he was going to leave me for his BFF. (The bromance is strong with those two!)
I’d be a bit shocked – I mean, we’ve been together for eight years and he’s never given any indication of being interested in men – but at the same time, I’m the only person he’s ever been with. If he came out as bi I’d be okay with it, though.
I wouldn’t be okay if he asked to experiment with other men. I don’t share.
This thread isn’t honestly surprising at all. There are all of these myths and stereotypes about bisexuality and bisexual people. Even homosexual people have been known to hold these stereotypes against bisexual people as well.
If my SO told me they were bi, I’d be really surprised but it wouldn’t change anything in our relationship (personally I’m queer and I’ve dated girls and guys so I guess now we could just talk about cute guys together?)
Everyone is entitled to their opinion sure, but stereotyping isn’t really fair. Plus I personally think it’s just a little sad that some people are so insecure that their long term relationships would just be over. If your SO was faithful to you before, there should be no reason they wouldn’t be faithful afterwards.
I also just wanted to add that the reason it’s “okay” for a girl to be bisexual and not so much for a guy to be bisexual is because its “hot” on a girl. It makes SOME, not all, people think that bisexual girls are easy, into threesomes, have a lot of sex, are more open to sexual experiences etc. And that’s not always true. For guys some people just see “gay” no matter if they still like/date girls and that’s not fair to either group.
It would depend for me.
A lot of people that I hae known who are bi say that they obviously think that both genders and sexually appealing in different ways, but they have a clean cut answer to “which gender do you fall in LOVE with.”
I would be scared if my spouse said that he falls in love with either that he was actually gay, but just wanting a family or something (is that politically correct thing to say? It probably isn’t, but I would be lying if I said I wouldn’t have that thought). I think I would also suddenly feel threatened by his guy friends.
Gosh! I really don’t know!
What would bother was if I didn;t know from the get go. I would be very threatened by it if it came up well into our relationship because then I’d feel like “why were you hiding this?”
If he was upfront with it from the start I don;t think I would give it much thought. I am a very open minded person as long as I am given honesty.
Wouldn’t change a thing, after the initial getting used to the idea. (I *would* be pissed that he kept it from me for, oh, 13 years now… but I would try to understand that it was probably coming from a sense of shame or embarassment.)
I also find these poll results sad. Why do you think so many people are still closeted?
LOL at MrsPanda99… if you’re going to say inflammatory stuff on a discussion board, people will respond. That’s kind of how it works.
Personally, I wouldn’t have been bothered if my husband had told me before we started dating, or before we were serious, or even a few years into dating. If he told me NOW, however, I’d feel like he’d been keeping something from me, and I’d want to know why. THAT would be make me question our relationship — if he’s always been attracted to both men and women, but never told me about the men, and is now mentioning it…why?? Does he have a crush on a guy??
Dealbreaker. I wouldn’t marry him. I wouldn’t stop loving him, but it just wouldn’t work. If we were already married, I wouldn’t leave him, but it would be a challenge. After this length of time, it would definitely have been a lie and not just him waiting to feel safe and secure.
SO and I have talked about a lot of these things. Things that we could work through and things we couldn’t. He would feel the same way if I told him I identified as bisexual, so there’s no double standard about female or male bisexuality in our relationship.
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