SPINOFF: What planning stuff took up a lot of your time that wasn't worth it?

posted 2 months ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek

Dress shopping! Hated it. Took six months, nine appointments and I don’t even know how many precious weekend hours of window shopping/online browsing. No, it was not worth it. Not in the slightest. Kept trying to convince myself it had to be bridal, had to be traditional etc., Tried to force myself into being some ideal bride, mistake. First of all I don’t really like dresses. I have two sweater dresses I throw on in winter over leggings, pair with some ankle boots and thats about as fancy as my wardrobe gets. Second I couldn’t wrap my head around spending hundreds or thousands for something I would wear a few hours. Ended up choosing a $94 wedding dress and $59 reception dress online that didn’t have all the crap I couldn’t tolerate in traditional dresses. boning, stiff structure, suffocating weight, excess layers. I was so happy to be done with it all. 💃

Post # 4
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265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek

sboom :  Don’t let my experience scare you. I think it was a combination of things. Not fond of shopping in general, had no clue what style I might like plus short and curvy is not the frame designers have in mind. Dresses had to be six sizes too large and clipped to the heavens to accommodate my hips but squeeze in at the waist while also about eight inches too long. Good times! lol I’m sure you’ll be fine. 😊

Post # 6
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1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I haven’t finished planning yet, but I do wish I hadn’t bothered putting so much time into finding a ceremony space. I did tons of research, visited several places, had SO much trouble finding a place that was close enough to my reception venue, fit all of our guests seated, had a backup plan for weather, wasn’t a church that required us to be religious, and also wasn’t super expensive. And then after a few weeks of this, I had dinner with my mom and was complaining about our struggles with finding the ceremony space. And she’s like, “Well what about my church?” She goes to a unitarian church (so they’re fine with any relgion/even athiests), it’s inside, plenty of seats, looks really nice, is very cheap, and is close to our reception venue. So that entire time, I could have just asked my mom and I would have saved all that trouble.

So my takeaway from that is to not be afraid of asking the people closest to you for help! I tried to take on all the planning and research on myself, and meanwhile all I needed was to ask a simple question to my closest relative lol. Not to mention, I’ve also learned to put more research/planning on my Fiance. Just because he’s not as much of a planner as I am, doesn’t mean he isn’t perfectly willing to help as much as he can.

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