(Closed) SPINOFF: What Would You Expect of Your SO if They Only Worked 4 Days?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Busy bee

howtobeawife:  Yes, absolutely. If he has an extra day off during the week I’d ask him to clean up, do some laundry, and run aerrands. I would not expect him to do everything but at least 40-50% of the weekly chores. 

Fiance is very laid back when it comes to housework but if he knew I was relaxing/hanging out and did not do any housework, he would for sure say something about it. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Are we not speaking of a compressed work week? Meaning they work the same amount of hours but less days. If that is the case I wouldn’t expect anything different, personally.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

MeandMyLouboutins:  yeah it depends. My Darling Husband works 12 hour shifts which means there very little time on his ‘ON’ days to do anything but eat dinner and go back to bed, lol. 

If he worked less hours tho like 4,  8 hour days , I would expect him to do a little more than me around the house.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

MeandMyLouboutins:  Yeah, same.

Maybe even less actually.. It would be more demanding to work the same amount of hours squished into less days.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

howtobeawife:  not really. I might ask him to cook dinner that night, but I wouldnt really care if he didnt. I would be jealous that he got a whole day to himself though….a wholeday of solo time would be awesome, haha.

He wouldnt want more from me as long as I did the same stuff im doing now. Getting ticky tacky with someones extra day off could go south fast. So…i’d much rather just keep the same responsibility that we have now, no matter what hours/days we work. Unles someone is jobless…thats a different story. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah, if he was working only 32 hours a week, while I was working 40, I’d expect him to do something on that extra day.  He’d have the same expectation if the tables were turned.  

Now, if this 32 hour week is a one time occurence, then no, I wouldn’t expect him to do anything extra, because I wouldn’t want to do anything extra if it were me having a free vacation day.  

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

FutureMrsJefferson:  I have been known to take a day off work before, purely just to have a day at home to myself.  I called it my mental vacation day and spent it with my cats watching Netflix. lol 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I would expect him to make dinner and clean up any mess in the kitchen left over from the night before.  That’s it and I would do the same and have done the same, when I’ve had a day off here and there.

I wouldn’t have to ask him though he would do it anyways.  In fact he had today off and he drove me to work instead of to the subway, which i didn’t ask him too and picked up groceries for dinner all on his own 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

As it stands, we work similar hours right now and split the housework 50-50. So if he was working less hours then yeah, I would expect that he did a little more. 

Agree with PPs that if it was a once off though, I’d just let him take the day off to relax (and then probably book in a vacation day for myself for the next week, haha).

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

howtobeawife:  I’d expect my husband to get the errands done on his weekday off that normally we’d have to take off work to do. So schedule at-home signed deliveries for his day off. Schedule routine vet appointments, kid pediatrician appointments, etc on his day off so that we wouldn’t have to take additional time off work to take care of those things.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

howtobeawife:  totally. i would expect that on that day when hes home and i have to work. that the house be taken care of. dishes done. maybe some laundry. i mean it wouldnt be set in stone but if i came home and it was messy, knowing he was home all day. i wouldnt like it. i usually dont ask Darling Husband to cook. mostly because he makes more of a mess then its actually worth hehe. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I don’t know how anyone can come to a conclusive answer based on so little information. I’d need to know how stressful your jobs are, what your schedules have been like in the past, how you’re both feeling (mentally and emotionally), etc…. I could have opposite answers based on these factors.

Assuming everything’s equal, I’d expect him to do basic things on that day off – like clean up after himself and not make an enormous mess, and take out the trash and do the litter box, but I wouldn’t have a list of items I felt he needed to accomplish in order to compensate.  It’s kind of bitchy to split things 50-50 all of the time (in this case 50-50 would mean you work more, so he automatically does hours more of house stuff).  A good relationship is sometimes 80-20, 90-10, 40-60…the important thing is that both people are satisfied.

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