Post # 1
I just read a post on being teammates and making each other number one priority in your relationship. I’ve been with my Boyfriend or Best Friend for a little over six months and we are alresdy quite serious, talked lots about the future and I consider him one of my best friends. But I don’t consider him the most important person in my life. My immediate family are still more important to me. And I feel like that’s normal after only six months.
What I was wondering though, when was the shift for you into thinking of your S/O as your family, your number one priority and the most important person in your life? Did it happen after a certain period of time together? Or did it happen after going through some big crisis together? I’m really curious about when/how this happens because I’ve never experienced it before…
Post # 3
Good question…I am actually not sure when it happened. I think that just with time it happens, after you start talking about marriage and serious things. Feelings just grow stronger with time. Me and Fiance have officially been together 3.5 years, and unoffical 5.5. So it may have happened sooner for us, maybe in the 6 month range. But then again I could be totally wrong, I suck at the whole telling time and date things. Lol. Things that happened a week ago, I swear the happened yesterday. haha.
Post # 4
I can’t think of a specific time or place that it happened for my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I. Like a PP said, it just sort of grew organically. I will say that I think our relationship started to become REALLY super serious around the 3 year mark, and I moved in with him after a few months of dating! It wasn’t until then that I started to realize that I couldn’t imagine my life without him, and it was until a few months ago (We’ve been together 5 years now) that I started thinking abotu marriage.
We’re kind of a strange couple though.
Post # 5
Like PPs, I couldn’t pinpoint a time… I think that most people don’t think about that enough in the middle of a relationship- is he #1? Okay, how about now? etc.
The thing is… I think I knew long before Darling Husband and I started dating- before I even had any romantic feelings for him at all- that he was the one, and we were also best friends for a little while before we dated… so I think I felt very early on that he was the most important person to me. But I think my experience probably isn’t common, I think it’s reasonable that you don’t feel quite to that point after 6 months. Although, I wouldn’t get engaged to someone before I reached that point with them.
Post # 6
I realized that I was his #1, and he was mine, on a very particular day. Maybe I just didn’t realized he cared so much. I was really sick one day, and ended up in the hospital. His actions that day and the days after, just really showed to me that this man was what I needed and all I wanted.
Post # 7
The turning point for us was realizing that we didn’t get sick of being around each other. We both had other partners in the past and we could recall getting annoyed easily, rather being with friends, etc. It has been three years and we still hold up lines because we are too busy cuddling and having our heads up each others butts. I love it.