(Closed) SPINOFF: When does it actually start to feel good??

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

When you relax and aren’t self conscious about what’s happening to you, it will feel great.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I had an O the first time, so it was good from the start for me. But I had also spent “alone time” before the wedding figuring out what made me happy. I would recommend the same for you. Take time separately from your Darling Husband (less pressure) to figure out yourself. It’s totally a matter of figuring out what you like. Don’t just wait for it to happen someday! Experiment to see what feels good to you.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Have you ever had an orgasm?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i think it take a lot of figuring out what you like and don’t like together… Hopefully you guys can communicate and tell each other what feels good and what doesn’t.  One day he will hit that spot that will feel better than it ever has then make sure he stays right there..and then “OMMMGAWSH”

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I think when you have an O that is when it starts getting really good. You just have to also experiment and find out what you like. 🙂 But the Os definitely help!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I loved it from the very first time! Almost forty years later, I still do!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Experimentation is SO important, and since it’s only been a couple weeks, you might not have done a ton of that yet? Definitely work on it on your own AND with him. Try as many different positions as you can think of, at different speeds and intensities, and experiment with where the two of you are putting your hands– honestly, sometimes him just moving his hands all over me or paying attention to certain areas takes sex from good to electrifying! And changing up positions can do the same thing– there are some that are just meh for me and some that feels sooo good! If you find something you like when you’re trying solo, let him watch you to see what it is that feels good to you, or put his hand over yours if it feels weird to just have him looking at you. If you find that a toy feels good to you, use that with him.

Also, I know not every woman is the same and different things feel good to different girls, but I have to say that MOST women absolutely love oral and I think it’s fair to say that most women will orgasm from (properly performed) oral before they will from penetration. I say “properly performed” because I PERSONALLY find that most men, experienced or not, really have only gotten their education about pleasing women from watching porn (and then aren’t given guidance when they try on real women), and again, I know I can’t speak for all women, but honestly, I HATE the way guys perform oral on girls in porn… it’s done in a way so that the camera can shoot it, but when it’s done to me, it starts out good and then starts feeling a little irritating (maybe even ticklish, as you described). What I consider “non-porn” oral never fails to make me orgasm. If you want to see a link to a video where a guy talks about this porn oral vs. real oral thing and shows how to do it the “right way”, go ahead and message me, I’m not sure if I’m allowed to post it here or not!

I hope this helps and you don’t feel I was being insulting or assuming or anything like that! Totally not my intention!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Does he have experience? I think there should be a strong sexual chemestry in order for it to feel good (well better than good…try MIND BLOWING)

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@MissHighHeel:  I’m of the opinion that being able to get yourself off helps you figure out what’ll get you off with a partner.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I loved it from the very first time! Almost forty years later, I still do. @KT808 aww wow that’s how I want to feel.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Don’t give up, it will feel good eventually! It takes time to develop a rhythm and feel comfortable sexually with one another.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Keep in mind too some women will almost never orgasm from penetration.  If you usually O from external stimulation, you may need to add a toy or something during intercourse to get to that point while he is in you.  Mainly it comes down to experimenting when you first start.  Try different things, see what you like, what he likes and eventually you will both know what produces the “OOOOMMMMGAAAAWSH” moment.    

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

You have to get to the point where you aren’t thinking about it and how it feels, you just do it and the feelings come, if that makes sense.

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