(Closed) Spinoff- when you or your spouse are sick, how much do you tend to eachother?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How do you take care of each other?
    I wait on him hand and foot! He does the same. : (24 votes)
    67 %
    He waits on me hand and foot, I can't handle being around him when he's sick. : (2 votes)
    6 %
    I wait on him, but he can't handle being around me when I'm sick. : (3 votes)
    8 %
    We leave each other to our own devices and hope they get better. : (4 votes)
    11 %
    None of 'em. I'll explain. : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    5797 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m bad, Darling Husband gets all whiney when he gets sick and I can’t handle it. When I’m sick I want him to leave me alone and all he does is try to pamper me.

    Post # 4
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    11390 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We take care of each other when the other is sick. I will get his medicine, food, or something to drink. & He will do me the same. Check each others temps, ect. I like taking care of him & he likes taking care of me. But if its the other way around with other couples I see nothing wrong with that either. 

    Post # 5
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    370 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    When SO is sick I turn into the dotingest lady to ever dote. Just last night I got out of bed at 3 AM to get him caugh medicine. However, when it’s me, he tries to be there but mostly I just want to be alone when I feel crappy.

    Post # 6
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    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    @LGenz: im right there with you – i think im a giver in general so i usually ask if he needs anything anyway, sick or not, and id be happy to get it for him but im the type of person that really just wants to be left alone when im sick.

    Post # 7
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    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We don’t get sick very often, thankfully.  I wouldn’t say we wait on eachother hand and foot, but if he is sick and nees something, I’ll get it for him, and vice versa. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    11390 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @LGenz: I’m this way when I am on my period. I get bad bad bad cramps. & I just want to be left alone, not even touched! haha

    Post # 9
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    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Both of us are the type of people who, when we are sick, just kind of want to be left alone.

    Therefore, we each respect that when the other is sick.  Basically, we make sure the other has blankets, books, electronic gadgets and such and that they get food (assuming they feel like eating) and meds.  But beyond that, just let them alone to rest and recuperate.

    Post # 10
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    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Luckily (knock wood) I haven’t gotten sick for a long time.  When he’s not feeling well I try to take care of him, but he’s usually sleeping or so whiney and refuses to take any medication that I just leave him alone.

    I have yet to see how he takes care of me… I haven’t been that sick yet.  Something tells me he’d probably just let me be though.

    Post # 11
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    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    we both take care of each other when we are sick, but I usually just wanna be left alone. He’ll keep trying to get me to eat and I just wanna scream “LEAVE ME ALONE i’M NOT HUNGRY!” When he is sick he is such a baby about it, its unbelieavable but I still do my best to care for him til he gets better

    Post # 12
    Member
    5797 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @Sweet.Sugar.Rose:

    @totheislnds: 

    I think I might be an extreme case haha. If I stub my toe/break a nail DH has learned not to ask me “whats wrong” (I usually respond “aaaaaaaah shut up, f*ck this hurts”). I just want to be in pain in peace

    Post # 13
    Member
    5009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’m ill a lot and he waits on me hand and foot. When he’s ill I do the same with added chicken soup.

    Post # 14
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    1398 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would say one of our problems is that we are both the opposite of being a hypochondriac. We will both deny being sick until we are practically death-bed ridden. Because we are both so stupid when it comes to our own health, I think we do rely on each other to be the voice of reason and point out that we really are sick and take care of each other. We have both had several opportunities to do this.

    Post # 15
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    2559 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    When I’m sick, he takes care of me, but he doesn’t wait on me hand and foot – he dutily rises and brings me whatever I’m asking for, then goes back to whatever he was doing to start with.

    When he’s sick, he wants to sleep all. day. I make food, he refuses it, he keeps his own medicine schedule, and otherwise he hibernates. Super boring for me 🙂

    Post # 16
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    2442 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    It’s been my experience that men get a small splinter and behave like the world is coming to an end.  Such babies!  When I’m sick, I like help with the things I need help with (especially if I’m achy or nautious) but if I can do something or get something myself, I will.  It seems like men take advantage of our nurturing nature and that irritates me. So, I will make him chicken soup fron scratch and give it to him, put the caugh drops, tissues, aspirin etc. within his reach and get him what he needs like maybe pillows and blankets and make him comfortable.  But then, I leave him alone!  I didn’t listen to all that whining from my kids.  I’m certainly not going to listen to it from him!

    ETA:  He had a scrape and I went to put the peroxide on it before putting a band-aid on there.  While he’s hollering “Is it going to burn?” my 17 year old daughter is cracking up laughing.  I told him I had already applied the peroxide prior to his whining. For goodness sakes… SUCH BABIES!!!  

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