(Closed) SPINOFF: Who would you save, your husband or your child?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: You can save one person: your husband or your child.
    My husband : (94 votes)
    37 %
    My child : (163 votes)
    63 %
  • Post # 197
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Birdi:  brilliant!!

    Post # 198
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    Busy bee

    As a parent who has buried a child (he was almost 14…it’s been 2 1/2 years) I can tell you that without a doubt every cell in my body screams out to do whatever is necessary to save my child.  It’s not even a thought…it’s pure instinct. 

    Mr. Mc has also buried a child (age 2… 4 years ago) and he feels the same. It’s one if the traits I admire I him and one of the things we share on a level not many understand. 

     

     

    Post # 199
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MrsEME:  It’s true I would

    @MrsPanda99:  I am Christian. Don’t get me started..LOL But the love I feel within my heart for my daughter and husband is indescribable. 

    Post # 201
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MrsPanda99: No offense:)  We don’t. I have an 18 yr old daughter and he has two girls 23 and 20. 

    Post # 202
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    Blushing bee

    I’d say husband if there were an equal chance of either one surviving.  It seems cold to say you can always have another child, but you choose your husband, and not your child(ren).  I think making vows means putting your husband before all others – of course, letting your child possibly die is a tough decision, but I don’t take lightly the commitment a couple makes to each other when they marry.

    However…I don’t have children, and I’d probably prefer that I go down with them both than live without either.

     

    Post # 203
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    @MrsPanda99:  I… have no idea what you’re talking about. I just responded to the original question, in a way. Considering I don’t have a husband or a kid, haha. I didn’t read through all of the comments. 

    Post # 203
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: February 2006

    red_rose :  relationship is ok and need to be saved. My question to you you are chosing to love spouse more than child to save relationship ok ? For whom ? For the sake of the child so you make a role model for them. But if this relationship or role model comes inbetween to save your child or the relationship that you chose for sake of your child , you will kill your child ??!! Secondly if you sacrifise your spouse for your child’s life will that mean you are killing your relationship with spouse ? No ! Because you love him and he loves you and death cannot separate your relationship but on other hand killing your kid will definately end up your relationship. Thirdly you may say “Noooo.. me and my spouse can together pass through everything even how hard to lose a child” , so I ask you if your relationship is sooo strong that it can bear a death of a kid , why your relationship is not strong if you put your kid priority #1 and why at that moment you say that strong relationship cannot stand when you are not putting anyone but only your kids over each other ?? !! You are brainwashed in name of religion . Follow your natural heart and make a better place for the future.

    Post # 204
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I don’t think anyone who doesn’t have kids yet should be answering this. Because the fact is you can’t know how you will feel about your child until your child is born. Just like you can’t answer this poll if you’re single and haven’t met a man/woman you want to marry yet. Because again, you can’t know how you would feel about your SO.

    It’s easy to say ”I would save my Darling Husband over my hypothetical unborn child”, because in that moment, your Darling Husband is a real person and your child is just a hypothetical entity. But once your child is born, your child is also a real, dearly loved, irreplaceable person.

    If someone already has a child and says they would save their SO, then I respect their opinion. But I don’t respect the same opinion stated by someone who doesn’t have a child.

    Personally I would save my child and Darling Husband would do the same. Neither of us could live with ourselves or with each other knowing we didn’t put our child’s safety first.

    Post # 205
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    instinct kicks in and you save your child – I know this for a fact.

    a week after my son was born I had a massive blood clot and very bad anemia. The pain from the clot and the lack of oxygen made it almost impossible for me to go upstairs. When I did, I would stop on each stair to catch my breath, and it took over 10 minutes to go up our 14 stairs to the bedrooms. Because of the leg swelling and pain, I couldn’t carry the baby at all. I would slowly make my way downstairs and my hubby would bring baby to me to nurse. 

    A week after his birth we had 2 sets of grandparents staying in our new home (we bought when I was 8 months pregnant, so we’d been there less than 2 months). The stove was finicky – and one of the grandparents was making something when I heard them start yelling ‘fire fire’. I looked up from my chair to see flames shooting up from the stove. 

    The next thing I knew I was outside on the front grass holding the baby and panting like crazy. Somehow??? I’d managed to get up out of the chair, run up the stairs, scoop the sleeping baby from his crib, ran down the stairs and outside. A trip that normally would have taken 20 -30 min took less than 30 sec. I left everyone else behind. They found me outside holding the baby.  They managed to contain the fire to only the stove, so no one was injured. 

    so when you ask ‘would you save your husband or child?’ I don’t know if you’d honestly get the chance in real life to consider it. I know I left my husband, mother, and in-laws behind to save my baby. It’s not quite the same scenario as asked here – but you’ve got to consider instinct’s role in your decision. 

    Post # 206
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    amanda3334455 :  But by that logic, shouldn’t those who answer have been in the situation where they actually do have to choose between their spouse and their child? It’s only a hypothetical question. Anyone can answer a hypothetical question.

    Someone posted a similar thread more recently. It’s an interesting topic. I don’t have children, but I would absolutely put my child before my husband. Of course ideally we would all live long and happy lives together. But I wouldn’t have a child with someone who didn’t have the same values as I do when it comes to raising them. If you would put anyone else before your child (including me) then you’re not really someone I want to start a family with.

    Post # 207
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    BubblesandCupcakes :  I guess to be totally honest, the fact is that I don’t respect anyone who says they’d save their spouse before their child… I judge the hell out of anyone who would even consider leaving their little child in a burning building and making sure their husband/wife got out safe… And I don’t think that many people would actually really truly leave their child to die over their SO…. it just goes against natural human instinct.

    Post # 208
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    amanda3334455 :  oh I’m totally with you there! I think so too. Animals protect their young before anyone else all the time. I think it’s natural human behaviour too.

    Post # 209
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    amanda3334455 :  I have to agree. I have zero respect for anyone who would save their spouses life over their child’s. That’s your job, if you don’t protect your child who the hell else is going to?? 

    I can’t imagine losing my kids. The life would be sucked right out of me.

    Post # 210
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Also I think most husbands/wives would be like ”What the actual f*ck did you just do? you saved me and left our son/daughter in there?? DIVORCE… I don’t want to live with someone like you anymore”

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