(Closed) Spinoff– why is it rude to attend the reception and not the ceremony?????

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 76
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935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

JustMe12182:  Sorry but your response is kind of condescending and suggests that those that think the ceremony is the most important part and would want people to be there for them to have the attitude that it’s “ALL ABOUT ME”

Maybe you didn’t mean that and I’m happy to see you’re such a humble and gracious bride but an all about me attitude is completely beside the point,

Post # 77
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168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have a few guests who can’t make the ceremony due to work, but they asked if they could come to the evening reception instead, which would be the bit after dinner. I said of course they could, and I think it’s great that they want to come to at least part of the day instead of missing the whole thing. 

Post # 78
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7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

cece_intheuk:  I think you have to differentiate between an all day and an evening only invite. I mean, if I invited someone to the ceremony and the formal meal, and they said “sorry, I can’t come, but I can attend your evening party”, that would be completely acceptable.

On a slightly different note, I had guests who were less than keen at the thought of attending our ceremony because it was in a church (possibly they thought they would spontaneously combust or something, LOL). I said it was totally fine to just see them at the reception. It’s meant to be a wedding… not a torture session…(!)

Post # 79
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831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

As somebody who is American living on the East Coast, I don’t see an issue with only attending one aspect. Especially, if you have kids that will make noise in church or aren’t that close to the person. 

Post # 80
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3870 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

FleeSircus:  Perhaps she’s not just going to the ceremony because she’s the wedding is a couple of weeks out and she’s presumably already RSVP’d yes to that, so trying to bow out of that is a bit harder than skipping the ceremony. And not for anything, but in her other post this is a couple she doesn’t know all that well. I’m sure they won’t mind/don’t care/won’t even notice if she isn’t there during the ceremony. 

Post # 81
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1833 posts
Buzzing bee

You know, as a 2 time bride and 4 time MOB I am thrilled with any time our guests give to attend a wedding OR reception.  We invite our nearest and dearest and there are no freeloaders in the bunch so if someone can only come to one of our receptions they will be welcomed with open arms, a beverage of their choice, a good meal, and great music.  We are thrilled to have them, even if it is just for the reception.

I have only attended one wedding where there was a gap of over three hours.  I will not do that again.  If I am invited to one with a gap again, I will choose the one that fits best into my day and quite frankly, if I want any kind of time to chat with the happy couple and have a dance or two with them, it would be at the reception.

I will never understand why people get so wrapped around the ax handle about this.

Post # 82
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

if i couldn’t attend the whole event because it was just soooo terribly inconvenient for me, they obviously aren’t people i love very much and i would choose to decline the entire invitation. problem solved.

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