(Closed) Spinoff: why no dancing at some Christian weddings?

posted 8 years ago in Christian
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Historically, especially on the Southern Baptist side, when the church was getting established the places people went to dance, drink and gamble (traditionally no-nos in the more conservative churchres) were houses of ill-repute where your dance parter was unlikely to be your SO and likely to be a prostitute. So the idea was good church going folk shouldn’t be in those kinds of places so the association with dancing, drinking and gambling stuck as all being bad things. FWIW I know lots of good Baptists who love to cut a rug, club dancing? (And personally, why would I want to be grinding all up on anyone at a wedding with someone’s grandma and great aunts watching?!?)  No, but swing, two step, line and ballroom? Heck yes!! 

I can’t speak for other denominations but I think the same history is there for a lot of them. It isn’t that the acts themselves are horrible, but that one should avoid situations where one is liable to be tempted to do something your wife and your preacher would disapprove. 

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Mrs Hoot:  I’ve been to plenty of Australian Christian weddings (the majority without dancing) and I’ve never heard of the bridal party not being able to get up and socialise. Sounds like you struck out on a weird and sad one.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@paula1248:  Fiance got in trouble all day apparently. He kept being told he had to sit down and not talk to people. I think he was talking to some of the guests before the ceremony then he got yelled at. ‘They aren’t meant to see us!’ His response ‘they saw us walk in. Who cares?!’ I didn’t understand the you must stay at the bridal table bit. And we had about a square foot of room to dance in so we just turned in an circle till the music stopped. Dulls-ville!! Think the woman was a bridezilla about everything. But the marriage didn’t even last a year so there you go… no one was suprised.

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve gone to mostly Christian weddings and all the Christian weddings had dancing. 

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oops double posted the same thing. 🙂

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@Torrid:  Yeah, all this.  

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have Footloose stuck in my head now, thanks!

My Baptist friend had nonono dancing at her wedding.  Most protestants will get down, though. 

Post # 24
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’ve been to Mennonite weddings (I’m not Mennonite myself) that have not had dancing.  I’ve also been to them where many guests left when the dance starts.

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I thnk some churches find dancing “temptation of the flesh” or something like that.  Fortunately it doesn’t happen in too many churches.  Dancing’s one of the ultimate expressions of joy, which is why some churches probably encourage it, as it’s joy from being filled with the spirit.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re non-denominational and chose to not really have dancing (just father/daughter, first dance, and a couple others). We did have some, selectively chosen, music going though. Main reason we chose agaisnt it was because we don’t listen to secular music anymore due to either lyrical content or subject matter. Our choice and we were happy with it. =)

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