- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I think it depends on every couple’s personal situation. Darling Husband and I dated for 4 years before getting married, 2 of which we lived together. Even with waiting this time, we still didn’t wait until we were finished with school. Honestly, that never really played into our decision making. We were financially independent from our parents for a few years before getting married, and, honestly, that’s the only non-relationship based factor I would have considered. I would have been perfectly happy to keep living together and never get married, honestly, because being together was always more important to me. However, there came a time when it made more financial and logical sense to be married than simply living together so we did it. We still had about 1.5 years of school left, but I truly can’t think of anything that changed about our focus levels, school, etc. just bc we said “I do”. I just don’t understand what people think will change so drastically. Obviously, I could see it being much more of a change if you didn’t live together prior to getting married bc the moving in process would be a big transition, but I’ve known many couples who were living together and simply waiting for marriage.
I agree with PP, if you’re waiting to be a “finished product”, you’ll wait forever.