Post # 1
So this is a spinoff from the thread of a fellow pregnant Bee who was scared about becoming a mom and being able to provide for their future child.
Many Bees replied that it was completely normal to be scared (which I agree) because having a baby will be a major change in you life that we can only do so much to prepare ourselves for.
But a few people indicated if someone says they were not at least a bit scared that that person is obviously not taking pregnacy/impending parenthood seriously enough.
Is this a common thought? Should ALL women be scared of impending parenthood and becoming a mom?
Post # 3
No I don’t think anyone should fear it.
I know it’s a natural feeling for some, especially for those with unexpected pregnancies, but the pregnancy usually preps you for alot of it, and parenting is so natural for most people.
Like I said though, no one should go into it being afriad, they should go into it enthusiastically. Life does change, sometimes more so for others, but it’s ok. I think it was a beautiful, wonderful change, and I thank god everyday for giving me such a little blessing.
Post # 4
Everyone deals with life changing events in different ways and having a child is one of those events. Look at proposals and weddings. Some women are beside themselves and become giddy when they are engaged and others carry on as normal (I am said normal, nothing has changed type of girl).
I don’t think there any correlation between a woman’s fear with pregnancy and what happens after the baby is born. Being more afraid does not a better mother make, it is just how that woman is addressing her life changing moment.
Post # 5
Oh wow. I just voted and even though votes or low, I am surprised. I am far away from being a mom, but I am scared. The cost, the potential screw ups. Its frightening. But at the same time exciting.
Post # 6
I don’t think that women should be scared of it. Everyone comes from different circumstances and have different levels of readiness (emotional, physical, financial, etc…) for parenthood. I don’t think parenthood is something to fear though. It is a huge step in a lot of different ways and everyone will have different feelings about it.
I was nervous because you can’t fully understand or prepare for parenthood ahead of time, but I was never scared of it. And now that I’m on the other side, there wasn’t really a reason for me to be scared of it.
Post # 7
I don’t think you HAVE to be scared of it, but I think it’s prefectly normal if you ARE scared of becoming a parent. I agree with @Treejewel19: ‘s comparison of engagement/marriage. Different people react differently to life changing events, that’s all.
Post # 8
Edit: I didn’t mean to post. I think I accidently click something to post a blank post.
Post # 9
When I got pregnant, alot of things changed, with my body, my mind as well. It was a new experience for me, almost surreal at some times. For me all the mommy-things started as a seed and kept growing with me, like my son. It’s a beautiful thing! If you are scared, it’s okay, I was pretty scared of alot of things (natural birth for isntance).. but as time closes in, it sinks in and you just need to find the strength we women have (might be cliché but it’s so true!!). Being a mom changes your life, but as I always say, it’s a change for the better. Life is better with my son here with me! It’s perfectly normal feeling like you do. Whatever your going through, it’s your feelings and you have to embrace them, but take things slow, let it sink in.. and just enjoy it when time comes (or if you already are!:) )
Post # 10
I’m not scared of becoming a parent in the least bit. But I am scared of being pregnant and giving birth!
Post # 11
@PitBulLover: It should be the other way around. lol
Post # 12
I am scared of becoming a mom in terms of both pregnancy and parenting. But this is only because I was an abused child and have no idea how to raise a child. With that being said, when I do choose to have children, I will read tons of books and take parenting classes so I can be as confident as can be 🙂
Post # 13
@PutABirdOnIt: it probably should since pregnancy and childbirth only lasts a short period of time, but I’ve always wanted to be a mom and really look forward to it more than anything. I’m sure I will get nervous once the time comes, but I don’t think scared would be the right word
Post # 14
I voted No because I think it should happen when a couple is ready and have thought everything through. That being said, I know it happens when not planned and that would be be very scary. I am personally 100% ready but the whole childbirth SCARES THE HELL OUT OF ME.
Post # 15
I don’t think you should fear anything that you come to in life… expected OR unexpected.
I know that even though I don’t know how the future will unfold, I do know that we will always be taken care of and that we can make it through anything… that no matter the circumstance I can always instill the character needed in my children and that those things come from my direct purposeful action and not our circumstance (ideal or not)…
Just like any circumstance… Though I don’t have control of WHAT happens to me.. I have every bit of control of how I react to it and HOW it effects me.
Post # 16
I voted yes before I read and contemplated No. I don’t think it’s required, but I definitely think that being scared is normal. I’d be surprised if anyone isn’t scared just a little bit. But I’m always nervous and have to remember orthers aren’t like that 🙂