Post # 32
I only want one kid, MAX. If we couldn’t have bio children, I think we would just be child free. I’m not really the kind that has ever felt the need to be a mother, biologically or otherwise. I was PISSED when I found out my sister put me down as the guardian of her three kids if something were to happen to her, her husband, and my parents.
Post # 33
I am very wishy-washy on this, which is odd given my family. I don’t see adoption as a “backup plan” in the sense that it’s “the last option.” Because it isn’t. It’s our … third option I guess? One is obviously going to be to try naturally, two is going to be *possibly* some drugs to help me ovulate, three is adoption. The reason behind that is only because I am not willing to go any further than ovulation drugs in the pursuit of a bio child. I’m rambling, sorry.
I am obviously 100% pro-adoption though as my mother was adopted, my father was adopted and my two youngest sisters were/are adopted. I do see the benefit of having bio children (for one, bypassing the paperwork and headache that the adoption process involves, which is a huge headache trust me) but I also don’t see it as a “last resort.” Basically my first sentence sums up my thoughts perfectly, haha!
Post # 34
I am absolutely terrified of being pregnant so yes I would consider adoption absolutely. My mother was adopted and so were several other members of my family. However, I know from family experiences that it can often be a difficult, long drawn out and emotional process.
Post # 35
1. biological child, the natural way
2. fertility drugs/invitro
3. we will discuss adoption if that doesn’t work. I don’t have a concrete feeling about whether i’m ok with adoption or not. I may have to be faced with the decision to truly decide!
Post # 36
I totally would and fiance and I are considering it for a couple of reasons. 1) I am a WEANIE when it comes to pain. There is no way I would survive childbirth. 2) I am 33, he’s 36 and we’re still just not ready. 3) I always thought for some reason that I would be a foster mom and my cousin adopted her foster kids. I also love my cats so much it scares me and they’re animals. Imagine if it was a human that I adopted. 4) See reason #1.
Post # 37
We are both open to adoption. I spent some time in a Romanian orphanage, and it changed my life completely. There are too many kids who need good homes, and while I understand and agree with the checks and balances of the system, it’s tragic that it’s as hard as it is to adopt.
Post # 38
Unless you adopt out of the foster care system, it’s expensive, and I’m not sure I’m up for that kind of expense. But yes, I would adopt in a heartbeat if we ever could. (I’m adopted myself)
And it would be in addition to our biological children, as we have one coming in a matter of weeks 🙂
Post # 39
Darling Husband and I are CBC, but we both feel strongly that, if we did want children, we would very much prefer to adopt. Actually, that’s the only thing we’d consider. We both feel that there are far too many children already that need homes and love. We don’t understand why most people feel the need to have their own biological children. Honestly, I’ve always seen it as very selfish that some people will pour so much time, money, and effort into having “their own” children when they could “save” a child instead. I don’t mean that offensively to anyone; it’s just a personal opinion.
I have no desire to have my own chilren (reproducing has never been a longing of mine), but I don’t know that I’ll never want to adopt. I don’t think I would really enjoy being a mom, but children in need break my heart.
Post # 40
yes we would adopt even if we could have children.
Post # 41
@MsPoodles: “Honestly, I’ve always seen it as very selfish that some people will pour so much time, money, and effort into having “their own” children when they could “save” a child instead. I don’t mean that offensively to anyone; it’s just a personal opinion.” I had a girlfriend like this. They poured out tens of thousands of dollars on in-vitro and when it turned out that they couldn’t have children, she refused to adopt. I never understood per position either but I realized some time after that what ever is going on in her head to keep her away from adopting has to be some pretty strong stuff if she’s electing to completely avoid motherhood. It may not be something we understand (seriously, I still don’t get it) but I am not her and I don’t have to listen to the noise in her head.
Post # 42
I’d be fine with adoption if I couldnt get pregnant. I’d prefer to adopt rather than fertility treatments (I have a lot of adopted family members) Fiance on the other hand isn’t sure how he feels about adoption.
I think it would be a “back up” for us, at this point.
Post # 43
I have no desire to ever have children but if I did I would never have my own biological children I would only ever adopt. Thousands of children age out of foster care every year, I personally would not want to bring another child into the world when there are already so many who need a home.
Post # 44
Adoption has always been something I’ve thought of. I don’t know atm how things are going to work out for me RE having biological children, so it might end up being the only option we have for children, but it’s not something I’ve thought of as only a back-up.
Post # 45
I kinda always wanted to adopt over having bio kids, but not for any grand noble reason- I’m just absolutely dead terrified of being pregnant and giving birth. I’m really uncomfortable with pregnancy and everything that comes with it, all the physical changes that never go back to pre-baby and all the invasiveness of it. Adoption seemed like a great way to have kids without having some doctor up to her elbows in my goods at any given moment.
That said, Fiance really wants bio kids, so I’m going to probably suck it up and get the good drugs and keep a positive attitude that everything will be peachy and if it’s not I can make Fiance as miserable as I am at any given moment. But I draw the line at putting my body through any type of fertility treatments- I’ll let nature take its course, if that’s what’s meant to work for me, but I’m not going to override it in the pregnancy direction if that’s not how my body wants to work.
Post # 46
In real life, I have no desire to have children of any sort. But in hypothetical world, I always liked the idea of adoption because I don’t really want to go through all the pregnancy crap – weight gain, morning sickness, etc.