(Closed) SPINOFF-Would you expect a vegetarian option at a meat eaters wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
1133 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I am a vegetarian myself, as is Fiance, and we are having a few veggie options and a few meat options to satisfy all of our guests (in which some of the meat eaters will probably chose the veggie option anyway).

As a vegetarian myself who has been to events where there was not even a salad to pick at, it’s a bit upsetting when there’s no vegetarian options.  Now when I go to events, I just pack my own little dinner in my purse or eat beforehand in case there is no options to eat.


Post # 18
1047 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think its rude not to offer a vegetarian option unless you know for absolute certain that there are no vegetarians coming. I’d be horrified if I had guests who couldn’t eat anything at my wedding. 


My little sister is both vegan and coeliac. Bloody restrictive huh! But I’ll make sure there’s something she can eat at my wedding. 

Post # 19
11268 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

yes, it is the bride and groom’s day so they can pick whatever they want for their menu but just remember that a good host will always accommodate the needs of their guests.  that being said, i think some sort of veg option is required (if needed).  i offered it but did not have any vegetarians.

Post # 20
3768 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

If I knew no vegetarians were coming, I wouldn’t care as much about offering an option.  Personally, we knew that several of our guests had dietary and allergy restrictions, so we asked them to let us know on our RSVPs and our caterer will accommodate as necessary.

Post # 21
404 posts
Helper bee

I always hope for a vegetarian option, but if there isn’t one, I’ll manage. Provided there’s something salad etc. I won’t die of hunger. Though I might eat a lot of cake and accidentally get drunker than planned.

Your pasta bar sounds like it’ll be fine! Just make sure there’s enough for if some people eat only that as their main meal, while others will want some as a side. =)

Post # 22
1848 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015



We will be accommodating vegetarians at our wedding.


Post # 23
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My fiancé and I are total carnivores, but we have a LOT of guests that have dietary restrictions. We have 5-10 vegetarians and 10 gluten free guests. On the advice of a caterer, we decided to offer one meat entree and one gluten free vegetarian to accommodate our guests. 

Nothing worse than going to a wedding and not being able to eat the delicious food! 

Post # 24
4655 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MissFemmeFatale:  I have no veg option… but that’s because I know for a fact I have 0 vegetarians coming, so why would I bother to accomodate someone who doesn’t exist?

If you have anyone coming with a dietary restriction, no matter how frivolous, it would be pretty mean to not have anything substantial they can eat. 

However I don’t think vegetarian weddings need a meat option – everyone can eat that food, even if it’s not their FAVORITE thing for ONE meal. But a vegetarian at an all meat wedding is up a creek, they can only either go hungry or leave early, both unhappy options, especially if they travelled, got a new oufit, got a nice gift, etc. It would feel like a diss. 

Post # 25
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We are both meat eats and there is no vegies coming our meal but we still have a vegy and meat menu because so times just fancy the meat meal. 

Post # 26
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MissFemmeFatale:  I havent read through your comments, but i think its much appreciated that a vegitarian option is offered.

I myself have had to bring my own food to a wedding when they didnt offer a veggie option, only because i eat vegitarian not by choice. I have sever allergies to dairy, eggs, and beef. which are found in most dishes so for me having a vegitarian option is sometimes the only ‘safe’ thing for me to order without getting violently ill.

Just thought i would put in my two cents worth as sometimes people chose the veggie option due to dietary needs. 🙂

Post # 27
1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I definitely would. I was a vegetarian for a long time and a lot of times vegetarians are marginalized at events like this “oh, they can eat salad” or just told to eat the side dishes, which can be cooked in meat fats or in other non-vegetarian preparation. If you’ve been a vegetarian for a long time and you end up eating a food with hidden meat at an event (green beans cooked in bacon grease, for example) you can get really sick. I’d never do that to my guests. Fiance agrees with me on this and we are inviting a few vegetarian and vegan friends, so we have to make sure they are accomodated. 

Post # 28
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Presuming that you have some non-meat sauce option (and I would advise you to), the pasta bar is your vegetarian option.

For me personally, it’s not an issue. If you know for sure that you have no vegetarians coming, you can get away for not offering a vegetarian option. If I knew that the person knew they had vegetarian guests and had decided not to offer an vegetarian option, I would side-eye them.


Post # 29
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissFemmeFatale:  Are you having meat-free pasta options? At least one?

Yes, we are accomodating vegetarians, gluten free and vegan eaters. I have guests that fall into all of those categories. I selected menu options that they can eat and that are appetizing to the general population. Therefore, it wasn’t a lot of trouble.


Post # 30
1618 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If I went to a wedding that didn’t serve anything I could eat, I would be offended and would leave as soon as possible.  The difference between a vegetarian not offering a meat option and a non-vegetarian not offering a vegetarian option is that the meat eater can eat vegetables.  The vegetarian can’t eat the meat. 

Post # 31
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

In one word yes.

In my own shoes I feel that as host I should cater for any special dietary needs – vegetarian, vegan, gluten intolerence, lactose intolerence,…

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