(Closed) SPINOFF-Would you expect a vegetarian option at a meat eaters wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 63
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@JulietFoxtrot: That’s fine. We can agree to disagree. I am not saying anyone has to accomodate all dietary preferences/needs. I just personally try to be a good host and so I accomodate people I know have dietary preferences/needs.

Post # 65
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389 posts
Helper bee

@Overjoyed:  Vegetarians don’t eat fish. That is a pescatarian. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’ve been a vegetarian for 8 years now. I’ve been to quite a few weddings and although I don’t expect vegetarian options, I sure appreciate it. I’ve come to learn that I need to eat before I go to a wedding. I’ll make myself breakfast, or eat before the wedding at a restaurant if it starts later in the day.

 

 

 

I made the mistake of hoping my hosts would have something, anything for me to eat, but often times I was starving at the end of the night. I can’t just eat desserts all day, or fruit (which is the most common food provided that doesn’t have meat in it). 

 

 

 

I recently went to a wedding that had backyard sytle food. Hotdogs, burgers, and steaks. I thought maybe they would have a side dish I could eat. They had macaroni and cheese with bits of pork in it. They gave me buns! hahaha. So I just sat there eating a hamburger bun while everyone pigged out all happy with their food.

 

 

 

Post # 66
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2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

How many veges are we talking about? 1 vege will just have to deal with the pasta bar. 50 veges I would put on something special.

Post # 67
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@petalpetal:  See, that is horrible! My Fiance deals with the same thing when only vegetables and bread are served (we have been to two weddings like this). He eats the bread, but it’s not particularly filling (as you know). He now eats before the wedding or we stop by somewhere afterward. It’s unfortunate he is only a meat eater, but that’s how he is. 

This is exactly why I strongly believe a variety of accomodating options should be served.

 

Post # 68
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6835 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@s2bmrscook:  sure, I understand. it’s just that the term “skewed” means that two relatively equal things show a preference toward one way or the other, rather than what you would expect – a relatively equal split due to pure coincidence. But the two threads here arent equivalent at all. So maybe that’s why people are questioning what you said πŸ™‚

Post # 69
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Newbee

I am still in the waiting phase, but I do have an idea of who I would wnat in my bridal party. One of my good friends is a vegetarian and at the very least I would have a special meal for her. However, I do believe that I would include a pasta dish of some sort in addition to the meat options. I feel that even though we may not have many vegetarians on our guest list that some people would rather have pasta or some other meatless meal instead. I know that I would choose the vegetarian option on many occassions if it would have been offered.

Post # 70
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MissFemmeFatale:  Yes, if you know that you are having veg/vegan guests you should offer them something besides salad. DH and I are vegan and served meat & dairy at our wedding. We only had 3 people (DH, niece and I) who do not eat meat & dairy.  The other 100 guests were meat eaters. Our guests had a regular buffet and my caterer plated up our food. πŸ™‚

Post # 72
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t think you need a veggie main if you only have one or two vegetarians, but you should have substantial veggie sides. 

In this case, the pasta bar (assuming there is a non-meat sauce available) fits the bill. But I read on another thread about someone having a BBQ wedding with meaty mains, which was fine, but NO vegetarian sides except for coleslaw. Would it have really been an issue for the couple to swap out the porky beans for plain beans or mac ‘n cheese or something?

On the “no meat” issue, I come from a very meat eating family and I know there would be members of my family (including my father who is picky about cooked vegetables) who would feel like they didn’t get a proper meal. But of course they would never complain; just eat beforehand and suck it up. Just a different perspective though.

 

Post # 73
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Considering most venues have no problem whipping up a vegetarian meal or two, I don’t see any reason not to. If you are not offering them a choice there should be enough other options that will fill them up.

Post # 74
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

As a vegetarian myself, it’s tough to go to an event where you bought an outfit, got dressed up, went to the event location, got the hosts a gift, etc and have to eat only side dishes. 

It’s very embarrassing and noticeable to have nothing main course wise to eat.  Some people ask if you don’t like the food and then start grilling you as to the reason you are vegetarian (which I don’t want to talk about while i’m trying to enjoy myself!)

Now that being said, I would be beyond happy with a pasta bar as an option!  Pasta feels like a main entree and no one even notices you aren’t eating meat.  All I am asking is that everyone avoid making someone have to “make a meal” out of side dishes!  You just feel like they didn’t care about you as a guest πŸ™

Post # 75
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Firstly, there is a big difference between someone who doesn’t eat vegetables because they are a picky eater, and someone who doesn’t eat meat for moral/ethical/religious/medical  reasons. 

Secondly, as the host or hostess, if you like these people enough to invite them to your wedding, you probably should care whether or not they get fed! If you care so little that you’re not even going to consider their ability to have a full meal (and not just hotdog buns or green beans and a tiny salad) then your guest list might be too broad.

Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@petalpetal:  My sympathies!!!  I have been in a simliar boat πŸ™

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