(Closed) SPINOFF: Would you marry someone of a different faith?

posted 7 years ago in Interfaith
  • poll: Would you marry someone who had a different faith than you?

    Yes

    No

    Maybe (please explain)

  • Post # 107
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

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    @Brielle:  That’s interesting. I’ve never met anyone who was in the “once saved, always saved” camp. So your DH would argue I was never saved? I find that silly. I was a believer. I led Bible studies, prayed in tongues, did mission work, etc. Of course those are all outward expressions, but I truly believed, and those works were the fruit. Very interesting perspective.

    And to answer the original question, I would never marry someone who was not also an atheist or agnostic. I suppose I might be okay with a deist since that belief really wouldn’t affect their everyday life.

    Because I have to hide who I am to so many others as it is, I would hate to feel like I needed to hold back from my spouse because he was a believer and I didn’t want to offend or I was worried he wouldn’t understand. Being with an agnostic or atheist makes me comfortable to be me, and I frankly respect him more for it as well.

    Post # 108
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I couldn’t marry someone of an entirely different faith, but as long as our faiths have the same core foundation, I’m good. 

    Post # 109
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    No..

    I just don’t understand faith. People having faith. I respect that other people do have faith. I just don’t get it. I wouldn’t feel like I properly knew my partner. And it definitely wouldn’t work if they were of the belief that I wasn’t going to ‘heaven’ and it was on their mind a fair bit.

    Post # 110
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    Blushing bee

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    @DJones69:  Ya know, I had my response all typed out and ready to submit and then I looked up and saw your post. They looked basically identical so instead of posting what I was going to at first, I am just going to give you a big fat +1!

    I agree wholeheartedly to everything you said.

     

     

     

    Post # 111
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2007

    Edited to simplify my answer: No. I wouldn’t have dated/married anyone religious. 

     

    Post # 112
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I chose maybe because I don’t follow a religion , it key of it for me would be that aslong as they were not forcing me or our children to follow their religion and allowed them to decide for themselves then I will be happy. I will never tell my kids not to follow a religion just because I don’t if they want to be Jewish, Buddhist , Hindu or what ever and in turn did not judge me for not being in that religion then everything will be fine :). Also guess in a way I am marrying a man with a different belief system to my my Fiance family are catholic and he wants to baptise our kids because he was , not because he is a devout catholic . At first when I was younger I was against this however agreed to do it. However after attending our nephews christening last month (the first one I had been to ) I’m just not sure if I am comfortable with it as it is not really allowing them to choose their own religion . I know my Fiance wouldn’t care if our kids didn’t follow a religion like I said he doesn’t really follow it but believes in god and his brother is an atheist … I know that he would not be happy though if they decided to become a Muslim or Hindu or something like that but I believe we can get past all that when the time comes haha sorry for the long post I guess I am just passionate on not dismissing people due to their religion 

    Post # 113
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Yes I would. I hace a Muslim father and a catholic mother. I came out fine. 

    Post # 114
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m a Christian engaged to a Jewish man. We’ve discussed it, and believe that as far as children are concerned, we will teach them about our respective religion and respect eachother’s religion. When the child is old enough, he/she can make his/her own decision. I think it’s easier being that Christianity has directly stemmed from Judaism. I’m not completely naive, and I know that there will be challenges, but we’ll face them as they come! 🙂

    Post # 115
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Heck to the no. 

    Post # 116
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m atheist and would not be comfortable raising children with any type of religion.  Nor would I want religion being openly preached around me.  I could possibly be okay with being with someone who was spiritual who didn’t try to push his beliefs on me and who wouldn’t want to raise our children with beliefs.  I would be okay with raising our children to keep an open mind and to decide for themselves though.

    I voted no because I think most religious people are very serious about their religions and would want their children raised that way and that would be too uncomfortable for me to be around.

    Post # 117
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @Dancing-in-September:  +1  I wouldn’t want that judgement either especially because I couldn’t reason with it.

    Post # 118
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m a (Catholic) Christian married to a Deist.  He has extremely strong morals and doesn’t give me any grief for my beliefs, nor do I give him grief for his.  We also agreed a long time ago to raise any future kids in my faith until they are 18– then they can choose.

    Post # 119
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    i have no set “religion” or faith as such, if i did id relate to christian, but i dated a jehovas witness for 9 months and knew it would never work out

    Post # 120
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I am very much a non-believer in religion. I’m not passive about it—to say I’m firmly against it is more accurate, and so I could never, ever, ever be interested in someone who was religious. It would be an automatic end of story moment. Everything would be a battle-the wedding ceremony, raising our kids, traditions, etc.. When I would tell my family in discussions that I wouldn’t ever get married in a church, they’d always say “Well, you never know who you end up with…”. They didn’t understand that it was an automatic shut down.

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