(Closed) Spinoff: Would you stay married to someone who was a pedophile

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Would you stay married to a person if you found out they were a pedophile

    yes I would stay and help them through it

    Oh hell no...

    Dont know dont care.

  • Post # 17
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    Sugar bee
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    OH.HELL.NO.

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    No, that’s simply unforgivable.  I would not stay married to one nor would I continue to be friends with a friend/acquaintance convicted of  that crime.

    Post # 20
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    Honey bee
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    @MrsPanda99  I think that’s true, but the porn on his computer was of very young girls. I think they said it ranged from ages 6-11. At that point whether he would actually ever act on that desire makes no difference to me. I could not stay with someone who was turned on by little girls (or boys).

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @adoc86  Ah. That’s a little different than a 16 year old who looks 20. I think I’d always be wondering if he was studying the children we passed by whereas I know he’s studying the hot 20-somethings 😛

    Post # 23
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    Sugar Beekeeper
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    @TexasSpringBride  As a pregnant woman, the thought of ANY human hurting ANY child for ANY reason (especially mine!) is absolutely abhorrent. No way could I ever stay with someone who might hurt our baby.

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee

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    @MrsPanda99  Just because looking at children online wouldn’t escalate to a real life encounter doesn’t mean it doesn’t turn him on and that he doesn’t fantasize about little girls/boys…that’s gross and it’s illegal to be in possession of CP.

    Post # 25
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    Bumble bee
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    @TexasSpringBride  I would feel sorry for the fact that they experience those urges, but I do not waste my time feeling sorry for people who do not help themselves. Pedophiles know that what they do is wrong, which is why they do what they do in secret. 

    Post # 26
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    Sugar Beekeeper
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    @TexasSpringBride  Not all pedophiles have committed a crime.

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @TexasSpringBride  Have you ever read the Invention of Childhood by Philippe Aries? The argument is that childhood is a convention that we created. It’s been a long time since I studied the text, but I do know that argument has been taken to the next level by saying that children are sexual beings but we don’t allow them to be. Many children masturbate at very young ages (though they often don’t know what they are doing).

    I am not saying I agree with that at all, but I find it interesting to read diverse perspective. I feel bad for anyone who has desires outside of the social norm. Fiance and I have a lot of sexual fetishes that would raise people’s eyebrows (no children or animals, that I can promise you). We obviously don’t talk about it with people because we know how it would be perceived and we can’t be bothered with being judged by strangers.

    Not everyone’s ideals, morals, values, and standards are the same. Whether we understand it or not, it doesn’t make others wrong and us right. People used to get married at 12 years old!

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @AB Bride  +1. A fantasy doesn’t mean action. Your thoughts are not crimes.

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
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    @FLBlonde93  I was very impressed with your willingness to try to understand the other posters position. The idea of saying that refusal to tolerate pedophilia is a lack of sympathy blows my mind. 

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