(Closed) Spinoff: Would you want your SO to say something…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you want him/her to say something?
    Yes, definitely. : (15 votes)
    79 %
    No way--that's totally out of line. : (2 votes)
    11 %
    It depends. : (2 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5177 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    @mrssrm:  I said yes, as for me part of a healthy relationship is not only being open and honest with each other, but also encouraging personal growth and being each others “mirror” in a way.

    Some examples, like a disinterest in things you used to enjoy, can also signal deeper underlying  issues and concerns.

    I also believe holding these things in, if they are bothering you, causes even more resentment and distance. I recall this from past experience in previous relationships!

    Again, I think it is all about the intention and the delivery as to whether they are controlling or whether they are loving. In my experience, talking creates further intimacy and connectedness, and even talking about issues like this gives you both the chance to know more about each other and yourself. Like maybe their work ethic is low as they are feeling depressed, or feeling “stuck” in their career…those sorts of things…and it can be a great opportunity for a new direction!

    Ultimately we each are responsible ourselves, but I believe in relationsip with others we can leaern a lot about ourselves from our partner.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Glad you started this thread. I definitely appreciate him calling me out (privately) about things that bother me. While I may get angry or hurt at first, I think it’s really that my partner be able to express his feelings about me and the relationship. After all, keeping silent about his complaints would only lead to resentment

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