Post # 1

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Buzzing bee
Simple question. 2 vegetarians get married. The vast majority of their guests are omnivorous. Many are flying in form out of town, and would miss eating meat. What do they serve?
π I’m interested in the votes. There are other threads about whether or not a non vegetarian couple needs to accomodate their vegetarian guests.
Post # 3

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Bumble bee
I think providing meat would be the polite thing to do, as I feel the same about having a veggie option.
Post # 4

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Sugar Beekeeper
I think that if they’re vegetarians just because, they should provide meat. But if it’s a religious thing, and providing meat would go against their beliefs, then no.
Post # 5

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Buzzing bee
@Bubbles42: I totally understand that point of view. π My sister is engaged, actually. While I plan on having food for cocktail hour she could eat, and I don’t think it’s my responsibility to accomodate her lifestyle choices in all things (she could pack a lunch, etc.) I still ended up making sure to have a vegetarian option available to her and her fi for dinner (only 3 people are likely to take said option)
The flip side of that is, I am POSITIVE there will be no meat at her wedding. Beigna vegetarian for her has a lot to do with morality, which she would not compromise for anyone else’s comfort. :-/ I suppose that means I could pack my own lunch as well, but it’s more likely than not to cause waves. π It’s so strange. I know I can suck it up and just eat snacks at her wedding, but I’ve already been conditioned to the point to not expect her to do the same (fill up during cocktail hour on non meat foods, eat a larger version of the pre dinner salad at the reception).
Though, she’s also a vegetarian who hates salads. O_O And she’s also someone who’s incredibly touchy about this sort of thing.
Ah well!
Post # 6

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Busy bee
I would think that the majority of people eat meat. I would play the odds and try to please as many people as possible. Granted, if the couple choses to serve only vegetarian becasuse that’s their pesronal choice, everyone else should respect that.
Post # 7

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Buzzing bee
@GeorgiaBride5: It’s funny how it works in vegetarian’s favor but not for omnivors favor, huh? But I can’t bring myself to not understand why. π
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Sugar bee
Post # 9

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Honey bee
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I really don’t agree with the way the choices are worded, but yes, I would expect a meat option just because traditionally weddings are beef/chicken/maybe veggie… but I wouldn’t be disappointed if there wasn’t one.
Post # 10

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Blushing bee
We are not having meat, which initially caused quite a bit of conflict. Would you go to a Jewish wedding and expect to be served pork? Would you be offended if I invited you over to my house and didn’t cook meat for you even though we are ethically against it and keep a vegetarian household?
We tried really hard to make sure there were lots of selections so people won’t be too disappointed. But it is my strong ethical belief, and I can’t in good conscience pay that amount of money for something that makes me just think of suffering. I figure people can get through one meal without it so that I can at least not be in tears at my own wedding.
Post # 11

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Busy bee
I think there is a big difference between the two scenarios. omnivores CAN eat vegetarian, its absurd that anyone need meat so badly they can’t enjoy a single meal with out it. For many vegetarians it is a moral decision, they strongly believe against the consumption of meat. No one should have to go against their core values at their own wedding.
Post # 12

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Buzzing bee
@cmbr: pfffft! I actually didn’t read this one. XD I can’t find it , atm, but it was one where someone wanted to know if a meat eating couple needed to provide a vegetarian option. In hindsight, it makes COMPLETE sense that that was a spinoff of a thread like this! XD
Post # 13

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Honey bee
As a guest, I wouldn’t “expect” meat to be there…but I would pregame the shit out of your wedding in the form of Big Macs around the corner from the church.
Post # 14

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Buzzing bee
@elysion: would you expect one even if the couple were morally or religiously against serving meat?
Post # 15

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Bumble bee
@WillowTreeWade: +1 THIS. I don’t know of anybody who NEEDS meat at every meal. I’ve said it before on this site, but as long as they provide a HEARTY meal (pasta is my go-to vegetarian food that everybody likes) and don’t have options that are only meat substitutes (like tofu or soy products masquerading as meat, that shiz is gross to almost all carnivores I know haha), nobody has the right to complain. If they’re vegetarian due to morals they shouldn’t be forced to kill animals for your pleasure as long as they feed you an edible and hearty meal. (side note: I LOVE ordering the meat option at weddings and I’d be so fine at a meatless wedding if I knew the couple was vegetarian)
Post # 16

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Blushing bee
@WillowTreeWade: Yes, exactly! Will you come to my wedding and explain that to our groomsmen!!!