Post # 1
so i’m one of those people who has never went by my full name, always the shortened version. Even most of my ID doesn’t have my full name.
During the Ceremony, can the officiant say my nickname rather then full name? and then have my full name on the marriage license for the signing? or does he HAVE to say my full name.
Post # 3
@RockStar33: I am the same way because no one can pronounce my full name, so for the past 10-12 yrs I’ve gone by my nick name (which eventually i want to make my real name). I’m pretty sure you can ask who ever is marrying you to call you by whatever name you like. I know I’ll be requesting that the priest who marries me to do that.
Post # 4
For the ceremony you should be able to be called your nickname, just as long as the wedding license has your full legal name 🙂
Post # 5
you don’t HAVE to do anything. Using your nickname for your ceremony is completely fine.
Post # 6
This is great news, haha.
Post # 7
In Pennsylvania the license matches whatever is on your driver’s license. Which is why my fiance’s full name is on the license while mine has my first name middle initial last name. He asked if he could have his middle initial only on license and they wouldn’t do that.
Heck, we almost had a problem with them getting the right spelling of his last name on there. There’s an apostrophe in his name and because the drivers license center computers don’t recognize symbols in a name it’s not there. She told us that they have to go by what is on the license, but when we explained the situation she put the correct spelling of his name on the license. Thankfully she was reasonable and understood why it was important to us! By the way, his social security card has the correct spelling so at least we had back-up proof.
Post # 8
Usually all the legal paperwork will need your legal name. So your license will almost certainly say your full name. But during the spoken portion of the ceremony your officiant can say what you want.
Post # 9
Don’t mean to threadjack but this reminds me of a funny story I heard a few years back. A couple friends of mine were getting married, and apparently the guy ALWAYS went by his middle name, not his first name — and had somehow forgotten to tell his bride-to-be this fact, because he had never used his first name so he just sort of forgot it existed. Well, the officiant went by the license and never asked about the name thing (again, who would think to ask “so you go by your first name, right?”), so during the ceremony he says “Karen, do you take John to be your husband?” to which she responded, “What? Who the f*** is John? I thought I was marrying Kevin!”
Don’t let that be you.
Post # 10
You can probably use any name you want.