(Closed) Splitting Costs with Girl Whose Wedding Is Day Before Mine

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I have heard of this, but for me, I would want everything to be fresh. You could probably get fresh flowers at wholesale for the same, if not less cost than you would be paying her. Maybe the containers and some of the other decorations could be split, but since your wedding is after hers, you would have to probably purchase them outright from her or if you don’t do that, you would have to give them back to her. For me, unless it was a relative or an extremely close friend, it would just be to risky and I wouldn’t have enough control over things.

Post # 4
3613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If you’re into the same color scheme you could share decorations. Maybe rentals also (chairs, tablecloths etc), rent them for 2 days so there’s only one delivery/setup fee. I would be worried about flowers not being fresh, but this happened to me by coincidence and it worked out perfect! I was told on the day of my wedding that the party before ours left some of their decorations behind and would I like to use them. Since they were white I said definitely! They’re the ribbon-thingies on the ceiling and the hanging flowers – they still looked fresh and went beautifully with everything else. It’s much easier to coordinate if you have neutral colors.


Post # 5
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I was supposed to be doing this, and have no problem with the idea. IF you can both agree on colour scheme, or agree to have flowers neutral, I think it’s great. If flowers are in wet oasis or vases etc there’s no reason why they shouldn’t be perfect for you.

Are you sharing ceremony venue, or everything venue? I ask because I would be hesitant about centerpieces, they could get a bit roughed up during her reception.

It could be a very effective way to save some money on having the place look nice.

Post # 6
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Sounds like a great idea! I might be hesitatnt about teh flowers looking a little sad, maybe you could make an appointment witrha few florist and visit them together, so get thier views on this? It woudl alos give you a chance to get to know what the other bride has in mind/likes!

Post # 7
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Hi!  I actually AM doing this.  She’s getting married on Saturday, I’m getting married on Sunday.  We’re saving on the venue rental costs (chairs) and on flowers.  We are each getting our own fresh flowers for the wedding party, but sharing basically the recetption decor.  BUT I will say we are mostly using things like branches, berries, leaves, and fruit.  There are some flowers we’re using, and I am kinda nervous about the freshness of the flowers. but its overall saving me probably a few thousand dollars, so Im happy with it!

Post # 8
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i’m sure you’ve already thought about this- but steer clear of anything that will need to be washed before the second wedding (linens, etc)

Post # 9
529 posts
Busy bee

Second the linens, but personally, I would love the chance to save on “big flowers” like ceremony decorations. One idea that would help you save on cost and keep things fresh is silk flowers – especially if they aren’t in places people will see up close and if you have similar styles. Or, you could go for mostly non-floral centerpieces (manzanite, stones, flameless votives) and just replace the flower part on your day. You are lucky you ran into this girl!

Post # 10
28 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

My caterer offered us a discount on our gold chivari chairs because there was a wedding the very next day at the same venue where they were using the chairs too. Worked for me!

Post # 11
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

if you’re talking centerpieces, MY big worry would be people walking out with them. Pretty much every wedding I’ve ever been to at the end of the night, people take the centerpieces. Maybe that’s regional (?) but it would sure stink for your wedding if her guests swapped all the good stuff!

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