Post # 1
I found the wedding venue of my dreams! Unfortunately, since we will be having our wedding on a holiday weekend the price increased a lot. We have been trying to negotiate with them, but so far we have had no luck. Every time I think about the venue I get really excited and can’t hide the smiles. But I also know that we could use the extra money towards a house or a new car.
So… do I splurge on the wedding venue that I have always dreamed of? OR do I settle for a different venue and put the money we save towards something else?
Post # 3
What does your Fiance want to do? Also, I think it would depend on the price difference and what precentage of your budget this splurge would be. If your budget is say, $10K and going with the dream venue puts you at $11K-$12K I would say go for it. But if it jumps you from $10K to $20K, then I would probably just pass.
Post # 4
do you guys have a budget? How much of the budget would the hall eat up?
Post # 5
I agree, it depends on the splurge amount. 1-2k, not a big deal if it won’t break the bank for you, several thousands more, I would save. I have not voted til I see what the splurge is.
Post # 6
I may be the only person with this opinion but…. I say splurge. You get one wedding, so you might as well get what you want and enjoy everything about it. I don’t know how much the price differnece is from your budget, but if it’s really a huge jump, maybe you can find a second job to work from now until the wedding to save the extra money. Fiance and I spent way to much time worrying about the wedding budget, to the point where I’m done. I’m pretty sure he’s done too! This is the 1 wedding we get, so we might as well invite as many people as we want, and do what we want and have the wedding of our dreams. I was in school and not working for the first several months of our engagement, but now that I’m working, the extra money has taken a lot of the money stress off of us in regards to the wedding. Another thing you could do to try to get the extra money is to sell some stuff. Fiance and I found a few electronics and appliances to sell to help with our bachelor and bachelorette parties in Vegas.
Post # 7
I’m frugal by nature, so while I wouldn’t settle, I’d still have a wedding of my dreams at another, more affordable venue (there are so many really awesome places!). But if both of you really want this place, do it.
Post # 8
@RunsWithBears: The holdiay fee will put us up $3,000 more. My fiance just wants whatever I want. He knows that I love the venue, even though I have told him we can still look. I am very conflicted. It is the place of my dreams, but I feel guilty.
Post # 9
Are we talking a $1000-2500 splurge or like double the cost splurge? While yes, you only get one weddning, I personally don’t see the reason to go into debt for a party.
Post # 10
The girly part of me says, splurge. You don’t want to regret not going with the venue of your choice.
But the practical part of me says, well a house is kind of a big deal…..
I am not sure…. go with your gut tells you and don’t feel guilty.
Post # 11
If you can and are willing to cut corners on other aspects of your wedding, and can keep within whatever budget you’ve created, then I’d say it’s fine.
But, if you can’t or are not willing to cut corners and/or even with cutting corners you can’t stay within your budget, then it’s not worth it (at least to me).
There’s no point in having the venue of your dreams if you’re stressing about making ends meet with other aspects of your wedding and within your everyday life.
Post # 12
@NA1526: Is the $3000 like 10% of your budget or like 30% of your budget? For example, would you be able to trim and negotiate enough in other areas (e.g. catering, flowers, dress) that you can comfortably afford the extra $3k? If it is a huge financial burden and you literally have to go from serving dinner to serving just cake and punch, for example, then I would say no. However, if it meant going from a full open bar to just wine and beer, then I vote splurge.
Post # 13
I voted to be practical, but what I meant by that is… can you change your wedding date? Like, keep the venue you want, but get married on a day that is cheaper? Or is the exact date super important to you that you can’t change it? I see your wedding is not until 2014. I think that’s plenty of time to move the date a week or two.
Post # 14
@NA1526: depending on what your overall budget is, $3000 could be a big or little splurge. is this increase just because it’s on a holiday weekend?? is that day set in stone for you or could your change it? if it was me, i would change the date, save the money and still have the wedding venue of my dreams.
Post # 15
@NA1526: Whew… 3k More? How many other venues have you guys looked at? Even if money wasn’t the issue the way I look at it is this… If they weren’t willing to work with you before, don’t count on them willing to try and work with you on something else. I picked this one venue because they were willing to throw in so much. Ask them about that before you book then see what they say. I doubt a business would rather see you walk than work with you.
Post # 16
@mypinkshoes: Well we are planning on Memorial weekend, since it is a semi-destination wedding (2 hours for most of my family). So we figured we could have a Sunday wedding so we could do the rehearsal on Saturday and the people would have Monday off. That way nobody would need to take off work and it would be easier for our guests. But since it is a holiday weekend, they do not give you the discount for a Sunday and charge you the Saturday rate. We were right at our budget with the Sunday rate, but now that we will be charged the Saturday rate it puts us $3,000 over the budget we are trying to stick to. And since the catering is not done by them, we can’t negotiate that. We tried saying we would pay the majority of it now, since our wedding is not until 2014. But that has not worked.