Post # 1
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Blushing bee
I have been trying on tons of dresses and finally found one I like but it is over my budget.. a lot over.. I will have to put it on my CC..hopefully some people who have mentioned paying will step up..do you splurge or settle on a dress that is ok? It cost around 2k but due to trunk shows I can get it for about 1700. My budget was originally 1k but everything in that price range is just EH. I found one that is 1130 that is nice but not really me and I did not feel beautiful in it…advice? Is it worth it to splurge or will you feel beautiful on the day of regardless? I have to make up my mind fast since my wedding is in Sept and they need to order ASAP.
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
I would stick to your budget. Racking up debt even for your wedding isn’t the best idea.
If you’re brave enough, I’d look into Tradesy or PreOwnedWeddingDresses. A lot of those gowns are New With Tags and/or never worn sample gowns at a big discount. That way you get your beautiful, splurge wedding dress without overpaying.
Post # 3
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Worker bee
I would say splurge on your dress but only if you absolutely love it. I chose to splurge on my dress and haven’t regreted it once mainly because I left room in my budget for the cost of the dress. Don’t settle if it will only make you regret it later. Too many Brides settle and then end up buying another dress anyway.
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This reply was modified 6 years, 10 months ago by bijoucherie.
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This reply was modified 6 years, 10 months ago by bijoucherie.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
I personally would not go so far above my budget. Only buy a dress that you can afford. It’s not worth it to have to put it on your credit card & be in debt over it.
For $1000, I’m sure you can find a dress that you love. I say forget the $1700 one, and also forget the $1130 one that you aren’t wild about.
You still have plenty of time. My wedding was also in September, and I bought my dress (designer, with all the usual time limitations) in June.
If you post a pic of the dress you love, we might be able to point you toward some less expensive drss designers who use a similar style!
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
scurll:
If you can get the trunk show discount I would go for it and see if anyone would pitch in as a wedding gift. Also most places you only have to put a deposit of half to get the dress ordered, leaving you time to get the rest of the money.
Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
Settle or keep looking. If you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it. End of discussion imo. A dress is not worth going into CC debt for. A little on the dress, a little on caterering, a little on flowers, etc… it’s a slippery slope… littles add up fast. Stick to your budget, your bank accound and financial peace of mind will thank you for it. That’s more important to me than a dress.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
scurll: I splurged and doubled my budget and wish I hadn’t. I loved my dress and I felt beautiful, but from the moment I pulled the trigger I wished I hadn’t done it, and I just couldn’t get over how much I had spent and ultimately I ended up feeling like I would have preferd some of the dresses that I had orginially passed up simply because I wouldnt have agonized over the cost so much.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
What dress do you love? Maybe if you posted that some bees could help you find an incredible lower cost option.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I think it all depends of your bigger budget. Is there somewhere else you could cut to get this dress? Cheaper shoes, make your jewelry, send e-vites instead of paper ? I find that for my wedding I chose to splurge on things that really mattered to me (I had what I consider as a relatively big budget for my dress but will wear $100 sandals underneath and will make my own birdcage veil). We also sent e-vites to guests our age and sent paper invitations ( which we printed and assembled on our own) to just a select older guests.
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
http://www.allurebridals.com/products/9218 that is the one I LOVE.
http://www.morilee.com/bridals/julietta/3173 is the OK one (not loving the bottom)
I am plus size (around size 20/22 street size) and I really want a v neck. I went to Davids bridal but liked nothing there or at alfred angelo. A lot of places have been saying I have to order in the next week or so.
Thanks!
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This reply was modified 6 years, 10 months ago by scurll.
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
PinkPearls: I am not brave enough..I am really picky about stuff like that..If anything, I would buy from a local person so I could try it on then make up my mind.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
Uh oh … I like the Mori Lee one a lot better. 
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
mexicalijennie: I am donig a lot of the stuff myself..I am making my own centerpices, and we are having only about 70 guests so the invites were pretty cheap and we also got a REALLY good deal on them.. my shoes will probably be shoes I bought and used once as a bridesmaid. I saved $350 on the DJ and also $1000 on the photgrapher through personal connections. We are also not doing favors and are donating $$ to an animal shelter instead. This is going to be a simple wedding overall. I never, ever dress up..I never even wanted a REAL wedding gown.. I bought myself a $100 one but once I tried on nicer things it was hard for me to let go of that feeling. People said they would pitch in but now I think they are backing out which really hurts.
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
2XMOB: I think the top of the dress is goregous.and back and straps.
Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
don’t forget alteration costs. that can be another $300 depending on what you need done.