(Closed) Spluring onwedding-yeah I know we're spending a lot.-but we work hard! RANT

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Good on you for getting it out…question:  How do these people know so much about your finances?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I have people saying that crap to me all the time “why are you spending so much? You could get A, B and C for the wedding so much cheaper here!” Now here’s the kicker, they don’t actually know what we are spending so 90% of the time that great deal they are recommending is actually way more than what we spent on the same item. People just want to butt their noses into your business, ignore them.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m actually impressed at your budget considering your location and the fact that it’s peak season (unless you have a really small guest list??)

But agree maybe not to share the $$ specifics with others?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I totally get why all of this would frustrate you. And I’m glad you got to vent. But…the answer to this is to stop telling people about your financial situation and the details of your financial decisions. If they don’t have information they can’t judge it. Ok..they can still judge, yeah, but they won’t be able to nit pick specific details and question the dollar amounts of your choices. Does it suck that you have to hide things from people so you don’t have to hear their judgement? Yeah. But technically the details of your finances shouldn’t have been their business to begin with. 

Just don’t give them any more info and enjoy your blessed life!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I just wouldn’t tell anyone about how much your spending. That’s completely between you and your fiance!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would have my same reaction with my in laws.  We went on vacation this summer to visit my Mother-In-Law and  FIs stepmom and dad kept asking about money.  He had not seen her in 10 years so I think that 1 week with his mother and grandmother was worth all the thousands it cost to get there.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

For a “touristy” summer area in peak season you are either having a tiny wedding or sticking to a really tight budget. We were in a touristy beach location nearby and even after Labor day we spent about the same for 85 people and $3k is  modest honeymoon. Yes you could spend less but some bees spent way more. I think you are just fine on your budget if you can afford it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

stop talking about your money and no one will say anything.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

no one should have a clue about your finances.  Keep it to yourself.

That being said, it’s nobody’s business how you spend your money.   

Post # 15
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665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Don’t invite them on your boat

Post # 16
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5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

People will assume what they want to about others, the trick is to neither confirm nor deny any of the questions they would be so bold to ask, this leaves you in a nebulous cloud of mystery…my hubby and I have mastered this art…last summer, we both came down with food poisioning and hid out in our bathroom for a week…people actually concocted a story where he whisked me away for an impromptu week in Paris…I wish…I was laying on the bathroom floor thanking god for the tile!

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