Post # 1
Ok so my fiancee loves sports. especially soccer ( he loves arsenal) and football ( patriot fan). I dont mind it. I mean I love that he is passionate about sports. however.. i feel overwhelemed sometimes.. for instance on saturday nights we dont go out sometimes or if we do we are promptly home by ten because he needs to wake up early to watch his game. he is constantly reading about Arsenal ( like a few hours a day) online. He loves them so much he wanted to hang a big banner at our wedding saying GO ARSENAL! at our extremelly formal wedding. I WOULD DIE if this happened! I like sports, but i am not a fanatic like he is. NO WHERE CLOSE. Sometimes I feel like he gives his sports more attention than he gives me which I know sounds crazy. I am SICK of watching ESPN recaps.!!!! Ive talked ot him about it but he doesnt seem to get it. does anyone have this problem? or is it normal guy stuff, and I just dont understand it?
Post # 3
oh and by the way he makes me wake up at eight am on sunday morning to watch the game with him.. during the world cup i even woke up at five. do you think im making this a bigger deal? should I be more supportive?
Post # 4
Lol my FH is a huge sports fan too. Before I met him I thought I was a sports fan but when I met his enthusiasm I realised that I merely tolerate sports compared to him.
I know it can be frustrating, when soccer is on I make no attempts whatsoever to have any real conversation with him because I might as well be talking to a wall….
That being said I just have realised and embraced that thats his personality, he is just a really passionate person when it comes to somethings so why fight it, just work around it.
Also I dont think that you should feel the need to change your level of enthusiasm for sport, you just be you, let him be him.
I totally get not wanting the Go Arsenal banner at your formal wedding though! haha maybe you can get him a sports related groomscake or something?
Post # 5
Every relationship is about compromise…i probably would have put up with it for a while because i like to invest and be supportive in the things he likes but then i would be like sorry hun…YOU can get up at 5 and watch your game, ill join you when im ready to get out of bed. My weekends are for sleeping in! even if its only till 9.
My Fiance is a patirots fan too By The Way….not me, Go Panthers! but he isnt crazy about sports but we both sit on the couch on sundays and watch hours and hours of football, the only thing he is crazy about is COD and Halo Reach. He is not a video gamer but its his downtime after work he plays for an hour or two and ill play on the computer or do wedding stuff. but after a while ill just put everything away and sit on the couch and sit there, haha he gets the point..time to turn the game off and spend some time with his amazinig Fiance (thats me btw) 🙂
I really think it is about compromise. Maybe he needs to take you out on saturday nights, even just for a quick dinner somewhere and sundays are for watching his sports. there has to be a balance though.
Post # 6
I don’t really have this problem because I love sports just as much as my Boyfriend or Best Friend does. We’re both big football fans, so we watch college football all day Saturday, pro football all day Sunday, and Monday Night Football. I also try to watch any Red Sox and Celtics games that I can, and he’ll watch them with me, but he doesn’t really go out of his way to watch anything other football and occasionally soccer. And yes, when the World Cup was on, he’d wake up at random times to watch the games. That’s just what fans do. If the Patriots were playing at 5am, I’d make sure was up to see them. ESPN is also the default station at our houses. If he does fantasy football (or any other fantasy league), then he may just be keeping up with player’s injuries and things. I guess I can see how that would be annoying if you had absolutely no interest in it. If you’re talking to him and he doesn’t seem to get it, maybe do something a little more aggressive? Like just grab the remote and change the channel to whatever you want to watch and tell him to deal? There’s probably a better way to handle the situation, but that’s what I would do. haha.
Post # 7
I get slightly annoyed sometimes at my FI’s football habits but I feel like its relatively contained to a particular season. I guess this is a little easier though bc although he likes all sports, he’s only psycho about football. Generally we don’t plan anything for Sundays because he watches football from 1pm-12am. On Saturday he will often watch the Michigan game, but if it is a night game we can still have a date (although I don’t plan dates to any place that has a tv because when I do he spends the whole time eyes glued to the set). Monday nights he only watches if there is a Patriots game or if we have nothing else going on.
Post # 8
Haha I hear you…my Darling Husband is sports OBSESSED. He could have ESPN on 24/7. It never ends–baseball, basketball, football, hockey–all year round! And we only have 1 tv, so I get stuck watching sports a lot. AND he gets VERY loud and VERY passionate about his teams–which leads to lots of screaming and cursing during games, lol. I’ve kind of learned to live with it, and we compromise–we change the channel during commercials so I can watch stuff, or he only watches “big” games. The only thing that’s sacred is football. If his Jets are playing, forget it. I just try and leave the apartment, lol.
Post # 9
i HATE football season. at least it’s only a few months or i would go crazy!
Post # 10
@love4sean: i totally understand. i HATE HATE HATE football season, for the fact that Darling Husband is glued to the tv ALL DAY SUNDAY… and most thurs/sat/mon when it gets to playoff time………
he got me into his fantasy a lil bit so i don’t mind watching every once in a while, but i’m sick of having our tv be on nfl network during the week and him being glued to his laptop after work cuz he has to be updated on player injuries and what not.
he’s doing a lot better this season about still doing activities NOT around football schedules
Post # 11
Yes I do feel overwhelmed at times, especially in the Fall. My bf loves football, soccer, hockey, basketball, and college football. He talks about his teams all the time. While I enjoy watching sports with him and we love going to hockey games together (go Stars! ) there are some days where I have to tell him “No more sports!!”
Post # 12
@love4sean: My Fiance has always watched a lot of sports, mainly with the guys or his dad, but now he watches even more for work purposes — he’s able to talk sports/play kiss-ass with the big bosses at work, etc. I suggest getting another tv if you don’t already have one 😉
Post # 13
My Fiance is also obsessed with soccer. He has not just one, but TWO favorite teams (one of them is Arsenal, lol!). If he’s not watching the games, he’s playing FIFA on XBox. He has always loved hockey, which I don’t mind at all since I love it too. But now he’s starting to get interested in football and it’s too much!! He totally monopolizes the TV between watching the games and playing the video games of the games.
Post # 14
My Fiance is less of a sport fan than I am (basketball/football/tennis..etc.)..though I’m starting to taper off. He is getting more into sport from spending time with my family and especially my brother..so long he doesn’t turn into my brother (who would faint if he ever saw kobe bryant or phil jackson, then if he regains consciousness..he would faint again..so he says LOL). FI is into fights (boxing and wrestling stuff) which makes me cringe, but he won’t force me to watch with him. He prefers watching that with my dad. The pacquiao-margarito fight will be on when we’re out of town this weekend and he is so going to let me hear about how I made him miss this fight he’s waited 8 months to watch. We also had an event during Pacquiao’s last fight too.
Post # 15
Hahaha, I wouldn’t say he overwhelms me. But he does love every single sports out there with the exception of Nascar.
It doesn’t bother me much because it’s one of his things. And generally if there’s something else on TV that we both like to watch he’ll record games and watch it later. Except for football games with our team. Those are always live. 🙂
Post # 16
It doesn’t overwhelm me because I’m just about as into sports as Darling Husband is (which is a lot – we both LOVE all things sports)!