- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
@Duncan: I couldn’t help but think of you when I was reading this:
Married couples can learn and apply enduring life lessons such as responsibility, respect, and fairness for their marriage from sports. Here are lessons the two of you can learn from popular sports.
Basketball: Wait for the right moment.
Although you should pick the right time to have a difficult conversation, don’t wait too long before having the talk. If you waited 48 hours, you waited too long.
Bicycling: Know when to change gears.
There are times when a decision you made together just doesn’t work out. Don’t say ‘I told you so!’ Reevaluate the decision without blaming one another for the mistake.
Bodybuilding: Appreciate the importance of rest and the value of getting a good night’s sleep.
Since the two of you will spend nearly one-third of your lives sleeping together, talk about your different sleep preferences and come up with solutions so you can both sleep soundly.
Boxing: Stay out of the corner.
As a married couple, you will have disagreements. Don’t hide in a corner, walk on egg shells, or fear rocking the boat. One of the keys to a successful relationship is knowing how to handle conflict.
Camping: Before you fall asleep, make sure that the campfire is out.
Although we don’t recommend staying up all night to finish an argument, we do think you should set a time within 24 hours to continue the discussion.
Cheerleading: A successful cheerleader never stops learning and looks for ways to be improve skills.
When it comes to marriage, there is always more to learn and more ways to enhance your relationship. Learn together how to make your marriage a great one.
Diving: Don’t balk, almost ever. Don’t develop a habit of stopping every time you think something wasn’t exactly perfect.
Accept that your marriage won’t be perfect all the time, but there are ways to move from a sense of disappointment.
Exercise: You need to set specific goals.
Finances are one of the areas in your marriage where goals are extremely important. Talk with one another about your financial goals, both short-term and long-term.
Figure Skating: Be aware of what keeps you centered.
Even though your volunteer work may give you a sense of joy and fulfillment, if the time away from your spouse is creating problems, you should know when to say no to others and yes to your spouse.
Fly Fishing: Have patience. It is going to take time.
If there has been betrayal in your marriage, in order to heal and to forgive, you will need to give one another time. The healing process does not happen quickly.
Football: The object of football is to get the ball in your endzone more than your opponent.
Don’t sabotage your marriage. In order to reach your goals as a couple, you need to work together as a team.
Gymnastics: Along with strength, flexibility is critical to being successful in gymnastics.
Don’t let stress, hurt feelings, unexpressed expectations, and miscommunication ruin your holidays. Keep the lines of communication open between the two of you and be willing to be flexible.
Hockey: A shootout in hockey is preceeded by a two-minute break.
There may be times when you are having a disagreement, that you need to give one another space. We’re not talking about a separate vacation in the middle of an argument, but giving your spouse some time to gather his/her thoughts can result in a more healthy discussion.
Horse Riding: After a fall, do a quick assessment and check for injuries. Figure out why you fell off, avoid making the same mistake. There is no way to completely avoid falling off a horse.
If you make a mistake, admit it, apologize for it, fix it, and don’t repeat it.