- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2020
So my boyfriend of 4.5 years is gearing up to propose sometime in the next month or two. How do I know? Well he tried his best not to be too obvious, but it was pretty easy to figure out what was happening. Last week he stopped by my parents house on his own, which isn’t that weird, but isn’t normal for him. Then my mom asked me out to lunch and said we would go shopping the following weekend. And wouldn’t you know, the jewelery store where she got her ring was across the street. Long story short, by the following Monday he and I were both sheepishly grinning, and after two additional stores just to make sure, I think I have found my ring. All he needs to do is buy it.
Now that I know we will be engaged very soon, I’m starting to think about telling my loved ones. Telling my friends and family doesn’t really stress me out, but I’m not crazy about all the attention that will follow. By way of background, this is a shocking statement for me. I did theater in high school, was in a sorority in college, gave the commencement address at law school graduation, and am now an attorney who literally makes a living talking. I usually LOVE the spotlight. But something about this feels uncomfortable. Am I crazy here? I don’t think it’s because I secretly don’t want to get married or anything negative like that. Just, maybe, the pressure of being perfect? Or the fact I kinda hate when things are cookie cutter and in the age of social media and pinterest weddings I feel like everything has been done, and so getting engaged doesn’t even feel special anymore. Particularly when all of your friends are getting married left and right. You’re just another domino.
Would love to hear if anyone else felt the same, or can offer wisdom about how to make this feel special.