(Closed) Spouses not Invited?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Thats crazy rude by every standard. Shes hoping for a high decline rate so she’s alienating people like this on purpose, I bet.

Post # 3
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Honey bee

There’s no way someone has 1000 actual friends 

Post # 4
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358 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

That’s really rude. IMO spouses should be a given. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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sonofskynyrd84:  I wouldnt go. Especially since it’s such a far journey. And if she asks, I’d be honest, “Im not comfortable traveling that far without my wife”. 

Post # 6
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482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

It’s extremely rude. Not inviting spouses is rude enough but to expect someone to travel that far alone goes above & beyond.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

It’s not really what I would call “proper etiquette”…guests should generally always be allowed a plus one especially if they’re married/serious partners. It’s rude to request your guests to travel especially that far alone.

I personally would not be comfortable making such a trip without my partner. I do not travel well and get sick easily. I would decline the invitation personally.

Only you can decide if you are okay with going or rather not. I don’t think anyone will blame you for the choice either way. I’m sure many of her guests will not attend due to this which is hopefully something she is prepared not to take offensively as it’s the natural outcome.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Crazy rude in my eyes, and stupid. I would nicely decline that invite.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I completely understand her reasoning, and I would not go. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

It is rude, and against traditional etiquette to not invite spouses.  There are some people on this website that will come on and defend her, and say that they’ve gone to weddings without their SO, but those people are the exception.  I’ve been to weddings alone, and it sucks.  I would decline if I were you. I suspect a lot of her guests will.  

Post # 12
Hostess
4629 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think at the bare minimum spouses should be invited. I would decline.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper

It’s not odd, it’s just plain rude. And no, not a new thing. It’s always obligatory to invite partners of people who are married, engaged, or living together, and perhaps also those who are  permanently committed and considered a long time social unit. I would decline without giving a reason. She can figure it out. 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

My brain cells can’t even proccess her reasoning and you shouldn’t waste anymore on it either.

An international trip with spouses purposely excluded? Nope. 

Post # 15
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1377 posts
Bumble bee

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sonofskynyrd84:  If you’re considering international travel, she should extend a plus one to you. I do think it’s a bit rude.

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