spouses stationed overseas with military SO?

posted 6 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My husband and I were looking into moving overseas this October, but changed our minds when my nursing graduation was pushed back a month. I did a TON of research and honestly, I am super bummed we decided not to go.

Living in another country is great- I’ve heard a lot of the spouses form tight bonds (I’m sort of a lone wolf, so I can’t really offer any insight on this).

My opinion is if you can live together, you should. My husband is gone 50-80 percent of the year, when there’s an opportunity to be a normal married couple (aka being together) we jump at it.

 Also, I’m in school with a girl whose father is a Naval Aviator- she lived in Germany with her family for quite awhile. She and her family absolutely adored living there.

 

 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

We are currently stationed overseas in England. You need to look into the ramifications of you marrying and moving later on. It’s going to be much harder to obtain command sponsorship, entry visas, etc… not to mention that the military will only pay to move a spouse on orders so all of your moving expenses will have to be totally out of your pocket and an international move is really, really expensive.

Personally… I would just stay in the states or delay your last year of school and go with him now. I wouldn’t try to go mid-tour.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

@Dimples723:  You should get married now if you’re going to get married. He’ll get more housing allowance (if they can get his orders changed to accompanied) and you’ll recieve benefits. He’ll also recieve slightly more DLA (or the overseas equivelent) Also, if you move quick enough they likely can add you to his orders (it needs to happen like now though! We had some friends do this before an international move)

Even if you don’t end up moving, it’s nice to be a dependent. You may be able to hop on a Space A flight to go see him.

I assumed when reading your post you two do not currently live together so when the military moved him he would take everything and you would fly out after your program with some belongings (a very easy move for you).

You have to do what’s best for you though! I always get excited thinking about these things, my favorite thing about the military is the PCSing. I love living in different places.

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@maureen9004:  Totally agree!

OP, we’re not overseas, but my Brother-In-Law is.  He was stationed over in Asia for a year before he and my sister got married.  They ultimately decided she should not move over to be with him so she could get more experience with work, but they did want to for awhile after getting married.  

She has gone to visit him twice I believe, and he has come home about two times a year for 2 years.  So, I think they try to see each other every 3 months on average if you don’t count the chunk of time he was deployed.  Which, considering he is halfway around the world, I think is pretty good!

All that to say, get legally married before he leaves if at ALL possible, but if you choose to stay here, you have options. 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Dimples723:  If you guys do a JOP, it only takes 1 day to process all the regular paperwork for you to be enrolled in DEERS, Tricare and officially claimed as his spouse. It’s a long day of waiting in line, but it can be done quickly.

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My son is getting married and he is stationed in Germany. He is supposed to come back to the states next year and finish his contract of 4 yrs. But he was told if he gets married he will have to finish all 4 yrs out in Germany and he has to take his new wife with him. is this true?

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