Post # 1
I am getting married on September 6, 2008 at St. Patrick’s Cathedral. I met with the monsignor there and everything is going perfect. He is the nicest man! As I was leaving his office he mentioned that my fiance and I have to meet for a PMI-Premarital Investigation with him. Has anyone ever done this before? I am very nervous about it. Any pointers would really help! If we answer a question wrong can he tell us we can’t get married there???
Post # 3
There was a recent thread about a first meeting with a Catholic priest…lots of great advice there. PMI’s are standard for all Catholic weddings, and you don’t have anything to worry about. Just don’t tell him you don’t want kids!
Post # 4
We just went through ours a few weeks ago and it was easy breezy. It took maybe a total of 10 minues. They just want you to say that you’ll have kids, raise them catholic, and that you’re not related and haven’t been married before.
Post # 5
We got married at St. Patrick’s too. PMI sounds serious but it’s just one final meeting where he meets with each of you separately, asks you a series of questions ie. ever been married before, will you raise children Catholic, fill out all your basic info and make a record of it in the St. Pat’s marriage record book.
Post # 6
My friend was married there 4 yrs ago, she was taught how NOT to use birth control. So if you were planning to use any-keep it to yourself.
Post # 7
There is standart procedure to have some lessons for the couple before the marriage.
Just keeps things to yourself. Obviously catholic priest is dealing with theories not real stuff since he has no experience himself.
Post # 8
Oooh thats so fun your getting married there! My parents got married there and I wanted too as well but then I felt strange having tourists watch my wedding.
As far as the "scantron test" and my finance call it…They can not refuse to marry you. Just do a little research before you go into it with your finance about things such as BC, how many kids, what you will do if you cant get pregnant (invitro etc is against the teachings) and make sure your on the same page. It will help you answer the questions better and will avoid a long lecture from the priest. Try not to worry about it too much! Oh and please post pics after the wedding I’d love to see!