- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
I don’t really know where to go to ask advice about this, but I just need to vet a little I think. Sorry it’s kind of long.
I thought my sister in law and I had a pretty good relationsihp. It was a slow to start friendship, she was always like the little cheerleader and I was more shy and geeky. But I’ve grown into myself now and she and I have a lot more in common than before, and we’ll go shopping or have a night on the town together, chat about life and things. We’ve both confided in each other about things in our pasts there is a level of trust there.
She shares an apartment with me and my husband in a city a few hours away from where we all grew up. Both myself and her were spending last weekend back home – she was with her parents and I was staying with friends – and she texted me on Saturday night asking if I wanted to hang out. She texted things like “how hard do you feel like partying?” and I thought it was a little unusual but I texted back “I’d love to go out and do whatever!”. I want to have a good friendship with her and I always have a blast going to a bar or going dancing with a group of friends. We never ended up meeting up and I stayed home in and watched a movie at my friend’s palce. The next day I head back to the city and get back home to my hubby, and he has something very interesting to tell me. Apparently, that morning, his mother had called him and said “this is really hard for me to say, but we need to talk about your wife. She’s been dabbling in drugs and it’s getting to be a problem, with all the partying she’s been doing lately. You need to talk to her I’ve seen girls go down this road before and I don’t want it to happen to her.”
Well my husband is like WTF. He tells his mom basically that that’s a load of crap and asks where she heard it from. She refuses to say but says she heard it first hand from someone who wouldn’t lie. Then she said she knows I tried cocaine at a party that weekend, which is a complete LIE and totally out of left field!!!! When my hubby still says it’s a load of crap she replies with “I spent ten grand on your wedding the least you can do is tell me the truth, you don’t have to lie to me!”
So that’s pretty much how that conversation eneded, and you can see how stunned and mad I was when I was informed of this. I asked my hubby to call his mom back and see if he can’t get her to say who is spreading rumours about me. He was able to get her to cave and admit that it was her daughter, but that she wasn’t supposed tell him that. My husband was not able to convince her (to our knowledge) that my SIL was lying.
This is so frustrating, I know my SIL does a LOT more partying that I do, I basically go out a few times a month usually with my husband sometimes without, but I’m always responsible, stick with good friends, and I don’t get into trouble. My SIL has her mother whipped, wrapped around her finger, and twisted my words from those text messages from Saturday night. I feel so manipulated and I don’t know why she would do this to me. People have always called her a catty bitch behind her back and she’s constantly shifting through friends like a teen drama series, but I’ve always stuck up for her and tried to be a friend and a sister. And her mother still thinks she’s this little innocent princess.
She comes home on Monday and I have to prepare myself for what to say to her. I won’t talk to her over phone or text I’m going to wait till I can see her in person. I’m worried about what she might have told other people because we do have some mutual friends. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, Thanks : )