- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Hello fellow bees!
I have never really posted on this board but I need a little vent session/friendly advice. My Maid/Matron of Honor and I had a chat a little while ago about a stag and doe party once it got closer to our wedding. I had never given it much thought before. I have attended many in my time and thought it would be nice to have one of my own. The problem comes in with my future mother in law. She has made her opinon clear on the matter: she hates them, she thinks they are cheap, she feels that the guests spend enough attending your wedding and she doesn’t want us hosting one cause she will look bad. That being said, she doesn’t want to contribute for the wedding. We have been saving as much as we can but my Maid/Matron of Honor told me there isn’t anything wrong with a little help either. My fiancee is fine with having one but doesn’t really want to take on his mom. I get where she is coming from, people do spend money on gifts but I also feel by holding a stag and doe that I am not forcing people to come out and spend their money. At this point she is making me feel kinda crappy about even holding one, like I’m cheap. I’m trying to find a way I can explain this to her. Her boyfriends kids held one, she went, she told us to go, we all spent money and that was the end of it. Now that I want to hold one she’s having a huge fit. Since I recently moved because my fiancee got a better job my Maid/Matron of Honor suggested to go down to the city and plan it with my bridal party and friends down there and not even include the Future Mother-In-Law in the plans. I somehow feel it will come back to bite me in the butt and I’m damned if I do/damned if I don’t (invite her that is.)
Any suggestions on this matter is appreciated because I’m at a loss on what to do.