(Closed) Stage fright

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
Member
8120 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Why not just keep it short and simple (just the bare minimum required by law) and then later on say what you really wanted to but couldn’t to just your husband. You could sneak off with your photographer (if you can handle that) and grab some really nice intimate photos.

Post # 4
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5480 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am a nervous nelly in front of people as well!  We were able to write our own vows, so I made sure to keep mine simple.  I also was able to read them, so I didn’t have to worry about memorizing.

The biggest thing that helped me was looking at MrDane as I read my vows.  It was as if we were the only two people there.  I did have some pit sweat going on, so thank goodness I remembered extra deodorant! 

Just take a deep breath, pretend it is just the two of you, and have FUN!

Post # 5
Member
1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I was a worried about this, too, but it really wasn’t bad!  I’m pretty introverted, and always have a hard time when it comes to public speaking.  I was pretty excited the day of, so I think that overtook a lot of the nervous feelings.  I knew to just focus on my husband, and try to forget everyone else as much as I could.  I reminded myself to speak up, try to go slowly, smile, and have confidence.  Everyone said we were very lovely with our vows, how in the moment we were, and how relaxed and happy we were during the whole ceremony.  I think that thinking and obsessing about it is so much worse than the actual moment.  Like a PP suggested, keep your speaking parts short and to the point, and you’ll be fine!!

Post # 6
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2361 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m the same way… we planned on doing it and then at the last minute we changed our minds and we exchanged our vows before the ceremony around a corner so we wouldn’t see each other.   When the time came during the ceremony for the vows the JP just mentioned that we had already exchanged our vows prior to the ceremony..

I love how the pictures turned out

Post # 7
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Most wedding ceremonies are actually pretty mindless when you think about it (and for this I am super glad.) Basically all you have to do is repeat after the officiant, and do what he tells you to do. You don’t have to memorize anything, or answer any questions other than Yes. Your biggest responsibility will be not freezing up, crying or getting a frog in your throat. And that’s not too hard if you just focus. Keep in mind that everyone in the audience is there because they love you. And it will only last about five minutes. You can do anything for five minutes! 

But if you’re still super worried after my pep talk, just rehearse, rehearse, rehearse. I perform weddings, and that’s what helps me sound the best. I can definitely tell the difference between couples I got to rehearse with several times and the ones that chose not to rehearse–both in myself and in them.

Post # 8
Hostess
7564 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@RockStar33:  I love this! 

What do you think, OP? Writing your vows and exchanging love letters sounds like a great compromise. You can just repeat the basic vows in front of your family and friend, and have a lovely, personal keepsake letter! 

Post # 11
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1096 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

From the moment I set foot down the aisle my eyes were on my husband and I couldn’t even tell you who attended our ceremony. It’s like I knew people were there but it felt like we 2 were the only people in the world. For me, being the center of attention or pubic speaking isn’t a problem but still was afraid of being to nervous and mess up my vows. I didn’t realize until after the wedding and reading on WB that something I ate for breakfast helped me be calm. I know this may sound funny but it’s bananas, yep… bananas. Apparently they help with keeping you calm and if anything I was just excited. I’ve told a few brides this and hopefully it helped them too. I highly suggest you have a good breakfast and make sure to include a banana.

Post # 12
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1074 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@autumnmountainbride:  Girl, I feel you on this one! I am a little anxious about the first dance! Granted, I know most of the people there love me but I’m still a little scurred (scared lol) about the whole process! However, I am also terribly giddy and so excited to profess my love to my man in front of our friends and family! Don’t worry, you got this! Remember, there aren’t many days when it’s all about you…so relish in the moment!

Post # 14
Member
1074 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@autumnmountainbride:  Lolololol! Yeah, I think I’m a pretty decent dancer as well! But the whole all eyes on me thing…not too sure about it! We will be fine! Positivity is key!  🙂

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