- 4 years ago
One of my oldest friends is getting married in the summer. I received a message from her asking to meet me for coffee as she had a favour to ask me. I am not one of her bridesmaids but am very close with her and did go wedding dress shopping with her and her bridesmaids.
I have a feeling her favour is for me to be a bridesmaid as a few months ago one of the bridemaids said she might have a potential conflict and might not be able to attend the wedding…. So I would be the stand in bridesmaid….
She’s pretty down to earth and besides the dress, shoes, and bachelorette (which I was planning on attending if it wasn’t super expensive), I don’t think there is too many more expenses. Money is a bit tight right now too.
I think I want to say yes if she asks me but I am a little concerned about the costs as well as one other thing… My partner doesn’t know the couple very well and we don’t know any of their friends but he has also been invited to the wedding. I’d feel pretty bad about bailing and not spending any time with him during the wedding since he doesn’t know anyone and was invited because I was invited. I know it is her day but I feel like I’d be totally abandoning him which feels wrong.