Post # 16
I’ll admit that I don’t see the point of the silicone rings personally… maybe if your job involves using tools where wearing a metal ring would be unsafe? But I don’t need for the people at the gym or at the water park to know I’m engaged/married.
I haven’t bought a stand-in set. I’ve been thinking about buying a smaller and less flashy ring to wear on the times when my actual e-ring (which is ~3.5 carat fireball of an antique diamond) would be inappropriate. I haven’t found what I want yet, though.
I travel a lot for business and often spend several weeks at a time in countries where “big bling is not the norm.. where plain bands (possibly set with smaller diamonds) are the norm. When I am represending my company on business, I don’t want to portray the wrong image, so it makes sense to leave my actual ring at home and wear something more suitable to the culture.
Otherwise, I travel with my actual ring. (I haven’t had a beach vacation since we got engaged, but we’re also not really beach people. If we spent a lot of vacation time at the beach, I’m not sure what I’d do. But I feel like the safest place for my ring is on my finger.)
Having a travel set that looks just like your actual ring only silver/CZ/moissy doesn’t make sense to me – a large sparkly stone is still going to be a target for muggers and thieves; they don’t generally carry a diamond tester around and test your jewelry before they target you!
Post # 17
I feel the same way, I’d never even heard of it until coming on wedding forums and it confuses me lol! I thought I was the only one. But that’s just me, definitely wouldn’t judge anyone else for it.
Post # 18
I understand your perspective! I think for me personally I would like to have a silicone ring because I work with children and I am constantly taking my ring off or just don’t wear it because I am outside a lot and around messy situations. I also go to the gym quite often. I don’t care if people think I’m engaged/married or not I just want it for me. I wouldn’t be as concerned with theft/damage because my ring is insured. I would still be very sad if something happened to it because of the sentimental value. This is why I am (and why I’m sure many other woman) consider getting a stand in set. I wouldn’t care about a $100 ring getting lost/damaged/stolen. I still like to feel engaged! It’s fun and wearing a ring is fun. I am not into jewelry at all and only wear stud earrings and my engagement ring so having it makes me happy! 🙂
Post # 19
I’ve actually thought about getting a stand-in because I’m currently living overseas and we plan to travel a lot. I thought about not risking my real ring depending on where we are going. All that aside.. I will say I also have a silicone band that I LOVE, simply because it is more comfortable to wear at the gym (or beach!). But my fingers tend to swell when I get hot, so wearing my regular e-ring at the gym tends to be a little uncomfortable for me because it gets a little tight, and tends to rub too much in my opinion. The silicone is much softer and more comfortable, and is more forgiving size-wise. You also don’t have to worry about scratching up your ring at the gym or damaging it. If you go to the gym a lot I think you would really enjoy it 🙂