(Closed) Stand-in engagement ring for internship? Am I overthinking?

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think it is a wise and mature choice to have a plain band as a stand in, in your situation. A silver band is subtle and classic, and you can’t go wrong. Personally I’m not a fan of the QALO type rings as they are too chunky and brightly coloured for my liking, but whatever you prefer. I totally think you’re right to be thinking that it’s inappropriate to be wearing a flashy big ring in your area of work. 

FWIW I don’t even wear my e-ring to work (I’m a teacher), and it’s a 0.65 moissy. It looks flashy on my tiny finger IMO and I hate students and other people remarking on it! I’ve been a plain wedding band girl for 95% of the 4 years I’ve ben married :p

Post # 3
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Busy bee

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catlover13 :  If it were me, I would wear a plain band, or just your wedding band when you get it. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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catlover13 :  Interesting post! Normally I’d say you’re thinking too much about this but I do think that a 2.5 ct ring will catch a lot of attention. I don’t know if it will alienate you from your clients or put off some of them from you. I do think a plain white gold band is more approachable and wouldn’t garner so much attention/questions from clients. I would probably just wear a plain white gold band at work if you felt uncomfortable.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

I’m currently wearing a fake ring since I’m pregnant.  I wasn’t worried about showing off, so I got a berricle ring, which I love and am getting a ring designed after it.

I prefer the high quality CZ if you’re not going for a plain band.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

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pinkcorsage :  That’s nice and works for you, but the whole point is that OP doesn’t want to be wearing a large or attention-grabbing ring. Yours are lovely but I would say equally inappropriate as the OP’s real ring, for her situation.

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catlover13 :  To be totally honest I think the CZ stand-in is not much less flashy than your real ring. Play it safe, go with the band. The whole point of a stand in, in your case, is to be understated. I think your BF is not quite getting your logic fully 😉

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’d probably just do the band.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Honestly if I saw someone with the silicone ring I wouldn’t assume they’re engaged, I would just think it was a fashion thing. I think a smaller stone would work better, maybe smaller than a ct, or a plain band.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

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MrsSnowMountain :  I just remove my picture from my response for your comment. However I flat out said in my post that I wasn’t going for a smaller look since I wasn’t worried about it.  And that if she didn’t want the plain band that she should go for the CZ ring from the rings she listed.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

 I would do a plain band.  Not the silicone ring.  That is very thoughtful and wise of you to consider those that you will be working with.

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