Post # 1
I had never even heard of this concept before visiting this board, but after one too many close encounters with my beautiful ering, I am thinking maybe it’s not such a bad idea. I’d like to hear from the ladies who wear a cheaper replacement ring on a regular daily basis, and save the real deal for special occasions. Does your replacement look the same/similar? What sort of stone/metal did you downgrade from/to?
Please give me some ideas on how I should go about this!
Post # 3
I wear my e-ring all the time. What’s the point of having it if it’s hidden away?
I guess I could see some exceptions–such as if you work with pottery or go camping often. These are some rough things that could damage your e-ring or cause you to lose it. However, for most people, I think it’s nice to just wear it!
Post # 4
Really? How exspensive does your engagement ring have to be before you don’t want to wear it in public everyday. What a horrible problem to have (sarcasm intended).
The only reason I wouldn’t wear my real ring everyday is if I worked somewhere where the ring was in danger of being ruined. Other than that, it’s on my finger morning, noon, and night.
Post # 5
I wear mine all the time too. I’m a chemist and work with chemicals, so anytime I put my gloves on I take it off, just in case. But otherwise I wear it everywhere. I did buy a cheap CZ solitaire to wear on the honeymoon because I’d rather lose that then my ring in the ocean. Other than my honeymoon though, I won’t be wearing a different ring.
Post # 6
I’ve read on different wedding blogs that some women are initially going with starter rings, where they get a nice setting and then put in a Swarovski diamond simulant as either a place holder stone or use the ring in general as a stand in ring.
Post # 7
I don’t know that I’ll get a stand-in ring but rather an ‘alternate.’ I’ve heard a few times in school now that you shouldn’t be flashing diamonds while in a trial, so I’ll have a plain band with some stars etched into it to match the one FI’s using that he inherited from his grandfather. This one I can wear in trials and also during working out or lazy days where I’m cleaning and such, since it’ll be flat and low profile. Then I’ve still got a wedding band on but I’m not wearing my solitaire.
Post # 8
I have a CZ stand-in, but it’s just something for me to wear while we save up for my “real” ring.
Post # 9
I kind of don’t see the point in not wearing your e-ring, personally. Engagement rings are so expensive, so it seems wasteful not to enjoy yours everyday! Also, that’s what insurance is for.
That said, I will probably get a plain gold band for days when it’s impractical/unsafe to wear my e-ring.
Post # 10
I’ll be the black sheep. I have a stand in ring. My part time job requires me to mess with clothing and my full tim job requires me to file and put on hundreds of pairs of laytex gloves per day. One of the prongs of my ring bent back a few months ago and ever since I just wear a gold band instead of my wedding set. I wear my bridal set for family get togethers, dinners out, etc. but not on a regular basis.
Post # 11
I wear mine all the time. It is insured, so it will be replaced if something happens to it. If I am doing something crazy with my hands, like hard core cleaning, etc. I will not wear it.
If, like @KaitlinHudson:, I worked with my hands a lot, I would definitely consider a stand in ring!
Post # 12
I wear a standin when I do extreme international travel (we are going to Asia for 6+ months this year, for example). My stand-in is just a sterling silver band, though. The point for me is to deter possible theft/muggings by wearing something that doesn’t look like it’s worth stealing, not to have one that looks like my real one to not mess the actual ring up.
Post # 13
What close encounters are you talking about? The only thing that can really hurt gold is mercury…and if you have a diamond, there is not a lot to be concerned with. Aside from scratching it with another diamond. As far as prongs go, they can be reinforced and you can get insurance. If your job makes wearing a ring infeasible, a plain band would suffice.
Post # 14
I wore my e ring every day for over 10 years. Now, as we approach our 10th anniversary, I want an upgrade (I’ve been posting about this a lot lately – my original ring is a family ring, so free, and I’ve gained weight over the years (due to age/baby/etc…) and have had it resized 4 times and my jeweler said it’s best to just keep it this way – not resize it up again – he could do it but my antique ring has been messed with too many times. BUT…I’ve come to realize that my dream ring (2 ct solitaire) will remain a dream for a lot longer than I had hoped (I was hoping for a 1.5 ct and still can’t afford that for awhile – unless I really want a stone with tons of inclusions, and I don’t). So, I found a 2 ct Signity cz solitaire Tiffany setting in 14k white gold online and just ordered it. I hope I like it. If so, this will be my “stand in” until one day I can afford a real diamond (if I even care at that point). After being married almost 10 years, most of the time I don’t care if it’s real or not, but then sometimes think it would be nice to have that big diamond. 🙂 I won’t lie and tell people it’s real but I like having it look like it is! 🙂 My husband is super traditional so he hates gemstones (colored) – I wanted a blue sapphire with white diamonds as an upgrade. I find it so annoying. I keep telling him that women do this but he has freaking tunnel vision. He also thinks 3 stone rings don’t look like engagement rings! 🙁
Post # 15
Yikes, what happened to the no snarkiness rule? I never said this was a “problem”, I came here to get advice from people who have done it/are doing it on how to go about it. Sorry it bothers you that I have a fancy ring?
The close encounters I mentioned are the fact that I’m a young, small girl, in a big, busy city, and I don’t live in the safest area (that’s the sacrifice I make to afford living downtown). I’ve been followed/harassed on the street before, and I know quite a few people who have been robbed. If this ring were to get stolen, I’d have no way whatsoever to replace it because it’s ooak.
To the person who has it insured, that’s something I definitely considered because I work in insurance lol. However the premium is based off of the appraised value pf the ring, and for some reason my ring was appraised for this absurdly high value (I’m guessing/hoping at least 4x more than my man actually paid), so to insure it would be about $500/year. Which means after just a few short years I will have probably paid for the ring again, which is crazy. It seems a lot more cost effective jsut to not put my ring in the position of having something bad happen to it.
Post # 16
cant you just flip your ring inside your finger? I do that when im feeling a bit nervous walking in the city at night. I think you should use your own judgement on what is safe for you, but if you CAN get away with wearing it, I think you should try. It represents so much and i think you should keep if with you as much as you can 🙂