(Closed) Standing at a ceremony?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: would you stand for a 45 min ceremony?
    yes : (4 votes)
    7 %
    no : (51 votes)
    91 %
    another way? : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    255 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011


    I voted no, I think it’s a bit inconsiderate, and your guests may get irritated – especially the older ones or ones with kids…I’m sorry, is there any alternative?

    Post # 4
    1036 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I voted no.  I think you need to figure out a way to offer seating.  Especially since the ceremony is going to be a bit long.

    Can you put chairs on the ground before the steps.  You would be ‘above’ the guests, but that could offer some nice drama, and with the right sound system no worries for anyone hearing you.

    Post # 5
    1429 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Maybe you should ask yourself this question, but not as yourself or as close family or friends. If you were at a not so close friend or family members wedding would you want to stand for 45 minutes? I’m sure people very close to you and your Fiance won’t mind. Not so sure about the others. So I voted no.

    Post # 6
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I can see having a standing ceremony if it’s about 10 minutes long, but 45 is too much to ask of your guests, In My Humble Opinion.

    Is there nowhere to put chairs?

    Post # 7
    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    If the ceremony was 15 minutes or less, I would say standing is no problem.  45 minutes is a long time and people will get antsy/restless. 

    Post # 8
    377 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would do it. In fact, I have done it (not for a wedding ceremony, but for other formal occasions). I wouldn’t enjoy it though.

    I also urge you to think of elderly guests and guests who might have an injury that would make this painful rather than just uncomfortable.

    Post # 9
    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I can barely get through long ceremonies while sitting down. I think if it’s 45 minutes the guests need to sit down. I stood up for a 15 minute ceremony and it was alright… but I still was a bit annoyed.

    Post # 10
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i have stood for a 15min ceremony and was fine but 45mins, guest need to be seated

    Post # 11
    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I didn’t even stand for my own 30 minute ceremony, I can’t imagine standing for that long without having the option to sit down.

    Post # 12
    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Not for 45 minutes!!  We had our guests stand (except older folks/parents), but our ceremony was literally less than 5 minutes.

    Post # 13
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I would be annoyed. I usually like to arrive early to everything so i would be there at least 15 min early so if the ceremony was 45 min that means standing for an hour. That kind of sucks.

    Post # 14
    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    15 mins tops. 

    Post # 15
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Please do not do this! Think of all the women in heels, and the elderly guests, and the children who will be wandering around, and the fact that it may be hard for anyone to rope off an “aisle” to keep people out of so that you’ll actually be able to walk, and the fact that a lot of people are just going to want to sit on the ground anyways and then they may not be able to see if the people in front of them are still standing and when they get up they will have dirt and/or little pieces of grass on their asses….

    I have seen numerous episodes of Four Weddings where this was a huge complaint. It always gets major points knocked off. I know that the point of that show is to snark, but that’s among the most vociferous complaints I hear. Anything longer than 10 minutes is just too long for this setup.

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