(Closed) Standing at ceremony?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is it okay to have people stand for the ceremony?
    Yep, that's fine : (22 votes)
    21 %
    No way : (81 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Generally, this is not a good idea.  Even if you have chairs for the elderly, ill, or pregnant guests, you will still have a lot of people who show up early to the ceremony, are wearing high heels, and have to balance their purse, camera, drink, etc. while standing for 30-45 minutes in uncomfortable shoes. 

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    What was suppose to be a 15 minute ceremony at the last one I attended, ended up being more like 30 minutes. Add that into the fact that everyone had to stand around beforehand to wait for the ceremony to start, us ladies in heels were not happy. Since you’re having it at a park, are these people going to be standing in the grass? That makes it even worse for anyone in heels.

    Post # 5
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    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I don’t think its a good idea. As others have pointed out, people show up early so it will be longer than 15 minutes of standing. The other problem I’ve seen is people sort of mill around so you may have trouble keeping an aisle cleared.

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    I would much rather sit on a picnic blanket than have to stand. As guests, we always aim to arrive 1/2 hour early, in case we hit traffic. So standing for 45 minutes isn’t ideal (I have some hip and back issues that make standing for that long very uncomfortable.)

    What happens right after the ceremony- where is your reception?

    Do you have a rain plan? If the chairs will put you over budget, what if you needed a tent? Can you borrow folding chairs from family and friends?

    Post # 8
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    1144 posts
    Bumble bee

    I personally think that you should invest in chairs. I’m just thinking of what I would wear to a ceremony and how I would feel if I had to stand, even if it was 15 minutes.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @rebwana:  That just reminded me that at that point my bulging disc in my lower back was giving me major issues. SO had to stand behind me at the ceremony and rub my back it was hurting so much.

    Post # 11
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    15 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Would the reception site be a nice place to have the ceremony as well?  If so, you could use the same chairs for both ceremony and reception.

    Post # 13
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    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If you belong to a church and the church has a hall, you can ask them to borrow their chairs and give them a donation. You can also ask a local fire hall if you can borrow chairs for a donation. If that isn’t an option, what about using benches (but having a hand full of chairs with backs for enderly, disabled or prengnant). Your wedding is in August, so maybe you can use hay, and place a blanket over each hay bale so it is easier to sit on. (If you go this route tell anyone with allergies to take some allergy medication.)

    Post # 14
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    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Not a fan. While you may expect your ceremony to only last 15 minutes, what happens if you don’t start on time? Not to mention those who are punctual and show up 15-30 minutes early. They’ll be left standing for 45+ minutes and that’s if everything runs smoothly. Then you have to take into consideration the elderly and those with medical conditions that will need some kind of seating. A good host provides seating for everyone in attendance.

    Is it possible to use the same chairs that you’ll have for your reception? If you’re having a cocktail hour, that would be the perfect opportunity to transport them back to the reception and have everything set up for when your guests arrive.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee

    I would say no way, simply because as @LiliKitty mentioned, guests in heels would probably get uncomfortable quickly. And then obviously you have to consider elderly guests, pregnant women, etc. Just not a great idea, IMO!

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Creative solution: Cut back on something else to afford seating for your guests. They won’t remember the extra roses you put in your bouquets or the table runners but they will remember being inconvenienced by having to stand for upwards of an hour.

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