Post # 1
I am considering having my ceremony outdoors at a golf course where my reception is taking place…. Only problem is that they absoltely only provide ~30-40 chairs for family/elderly/pregnant women, etc…. the rest of the guests would be standing… there will be around 120 people there. The ceremony would last about 10 minutes.
Is that acceptable???? Or should I consider a different location?
Post # 3
its ok, I went to one on the beach that was standing, we stood in a cemi circle around the couple, it was kind of akward and really hard to hear. There were probably less then 100 people there. It was hard to hear what was going on and I know people in the back couldnt see anything.
I personally would probalby look into a different location, not only that think about the weather, will it be really hot? It would not be fun to stand for a ceremony if it were really hot out, but if its really only going to be 10 min then its probably ok
Post # 4
i think it should be ok for 10 minutes, and definitely make sure the chairs are used by elderly guests, pregnant women, etc. they shouldn’t have to stand while more able people use the chairs, it just might be hard to police who gets the chairs and who has to stand
Post # 5
I think it could be ok if it’s really only 10 minutes (but how often do things like this honestly go exactly according to plan/schedule?). Also, it’s likely going to be hot judging by your date, which makes standing worse IMO. Lastly, will 120 people all be able to see the ceremony if they’re standing? If it were me, I would strongly consider another location.
Post # 6
I would consider another location also. If it was a smaller group of people it would have worked. But with 120 I can see all types of issues with that.
Post # 7
I also had another thought, your ceremony may only be 10 minutes but people will be standing much longer then that, they get there early, then they have to wait for it to start, then they have to wait for parents and wedding party to walk down the asile….. they will be standing a lot longer then 10 min in the heat, look for another location!
people may get very annoyed having to stand for 30+min in the heat, I know I would
Post # 8
am I standing on grass in my heels? I know you said it was a golf course. .
no, I would not be happy.
Post # 9
I had to stand at a wedding once and it’s all anyone ever remembered. Then again, it was NOT ten minutes.
Not being able to see sucks, consider another location!
Post # 10
The main part of the wedding is people actually want to see you get married, and that might be hard to do if there is a crowd of people standing around the ceremony. I was at a wedding that due to the small space it was a standing ceremony, and I got stuck in the back which was annoying. I would really reconsider doing it somewhere different – and might I add covered or indoors in the event that it rains….
Post # 11
I would consider something else. Even though the ceremony is 10 minutes people will be standing a lot longer than this.
I was in a wedding this spring that the guests had to stand and it just wasn’t great. It makes it harder for people to hear / see. And it seemed like people where mingling during the ceremony instead of paying attention to what was going on.
Do it somewhere where everyone can sit.
Post # 12
Consider something else. I photograph a lot of beach weddings and most of them have guests standing. It’s super random looking in pictures, not to mention, who wants to stand? Yes the ceremony might only be 10 minutes, but guests usually show up around 15-30 minutes early so in reality they’ll be standing for probably around 45 minutes, maybe longer depending on how long it takes to clear out of there.
The other problem is that people feel it gives them a free pass to move around, and I can’t tell you how many people I have to ask to move out of the isle or our way so we can get our shots.
Post # 13
@Mrs.RDV: This is true. The wedding I went to where we were standing, there was a group of men in the back who talked throughout the whole thing! I know it was annoying not to see or hear anything during the ceremony, but they were so rude about it! Seriously though, these people were acting like children and had to be told to shut up several times by the rabbi during the ceremony! I think there is a much less chance of something like that happening if it feels more formal with everyone sitting down.
Post # 14
We struggled with this, too. Technically our venue only allows 20 chairs — we have about 65 people. Our choice could still end up being a total disaser, but we decided to order 14 *benches* and take our chances having to explain our “less than 20 chairs” logic to the park ranger if one swings by. But in a situation where you know there’s going to be venue staff at the event, that won’t work.
It would require turning the room over, which many not be ideal, but is there any way they ceremony could be held in the reception space? At least you know there will be enough chairs there!
Post # 15
My wedding was like this and it was totally fine! We had 110 guests and only room for about 20 ceremony seats, and it was outside, on the water. Our ceremony was 15 minutes and not a single person complained — not even my notoriously cranky aunt! We did warn guests ahead of time that the ceremony would take place on grass, so there weren’t any women falling over in stilettos. We also started the ceremony right on time, so there wasn’t a huge lag between when people arrived and when everything got going. And no one had trouble hearing; one of the guests standing at the back videotaped the whole ceremony and it’s completely audible. As long as you give the guests a heads-up beforehand so they know what to expect, it’s no problem!
Post # 16
If there’s no other alternative, then I guess it’s acceptable. Keep in mind, guests get there half an hour early, and that means they’d really be standing for 40 minutes.