(Closed) Standing ceremony- the good, the bad, the ugly

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I was at one standing ceremony.  It was horribly uncomfortable.  Because of the set-up, I couldn’t see a lot of the ceremony, I could barely hear, and it was such a pity.  DH and I paid a lot of money to fly to this wedding, and it seems so haphazard and careless that we almost regretted paying to go. 

People were shuffling in their seats.  People who were older or ill complained.  Even people who are fit and younger were uncomfortable.

When I think of this wedding, I don’t remember the ceremony, or the love, or anything — I think of how my feet hurt and how the person in front of me kept shifting so much that I couldn’t see anything.  If you want your guests to feel the same, have no chairs.  If you want your guests to feel welcome and wanted, maybe you should figure out how to cover the cost of the chairs.

Post # 31
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6331 posts
Bee Keeper

If you’re having a small wedding with a short ceremony, it should be fine to have most people stand. With a small number, everyone will still be able to see, and people won’t mind standing if it’s not too long. I would still have some chairs available, though, for people with health problems or other reasons for needing to sit.

Post # 32
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

we had a standing ceremony. it was on the beach, and we went ahead of time and marked out the aisle/standing areas with lawn stakes and tulle “fences” (we used cut up curtains from ikea). Our ceremony was also less than 10 minutes and started on time. It was a non-issue.

+1 for if it’s short and sweet save your $1k. 

+1 for if it’s longer than 10 minutes, explore cheaper seating options.

Post # 33
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92 posts
Worker bee

We had more or less standing ceremony (chairs were provided for older guests, closest family and for few more people who would need them) – it’s standard practice in our civil ceremonies which occur in official registries and are about 20 minutes long. Guests arrive a bit earlier, but average standing is no longer than 30 min alltogether. There are some constraints, though – 1)everybody expects to stand in civil ceremonies, so it’s no big deal (I suppose it may be different in OPs cultural circle); 2)I’ts indoors; 3)Usually there are no more than 50-75 guests so everybody can see the ceremony. If there are more than 75 people and ceremony is going to be longer than 20 min, it’s going to be real mess without chairs.

Post # 34
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495 posts
Helper bee

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greenie318:  we had an out door wedding with chairs for every guest, but after i walked down the aisle the celebrant forgot to tell everyone to be seated again, so everyone was standing for the whole ceremony! So annoying! Obscured photographers shots too!

Post # 35
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229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Most of the outdoor ceremonies I have been to are some seating some standing. There are about 20 chairs for elderly guests etc, then everyone else stands. No one cared or complained, but the ceremonies were short (approx 10 min ish). It was nice to stand and mingle with everyone, and it felt social, fun and not so formal. I will be doing this for my outdoor ceremony.

(Side note: most of the people I know are very chill and wouldn’t care to stand for an hour. Think about your guest’s personalities). 

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