(Closed) standing the entire ceremony….

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 15
3373 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m going to go against the crowd- I wouldn’t mind. It’s such a short period of time that it doesn’t matter.

And if you’re short, you can’t see even if there’s chairs (because everyone stands a lot during a church service).


Just make sure to let people know not to wear stilettos!

Post # 16
962 posts
Busy bee

If you had asked me this question and I had never been to a standing only ceremony, then my answer would have been in line with the majority and I would have said “no. you must have chairs.” HOWEVER, I attended a friend’s wedding and she had a very short ceremony, standing only (no chairs) followed by a kick ass reception. It wasn’t a probllem at all and I doubt anyone complained. Really standing for 15 or 20 minutes is no big deal. As long as you treat your guests well the rest of the night and you have seats for the elderly/infirmed

Post # 17
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If the wedding starts on time and really is only around 15 minutes, I’d be fine with it.  Weather would play a factor in it.

I was the Maid/Matron of Honor at an outdoor August wedding where we all walked up and waited for the bride to pull up in a horse drawn carriage.  The horse was uncooperative and we spent a good half hour just standing around waiting for her to arrive.  It was really hot, I got burned because my makeup melted off and it was miserable standing there.  The guests were seated and I was jealous, primarily because I was trying not to faint.  I never let on to my friend because it was hardly her fault, but if I’d been a guest rather than wedding party and having to wait standing in the heat, I’d have felt a bit less charitably.

Post # 18
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

This is probably just me and I’m a little embarassed to say this, but I can’t stand in one place for an extended period of time, even if it is only 15-20 minutes.  I think I lock my knees when I stand or something, and I’m just really uncomfortable if I’m not moving.  So if I came to your wedding, I wouldn’t be mad at you because there aren’t chairs, but I would probably end up sitting on the grass or something awkward like that.  I’m not saying that most people will have problems, but there may be a couple. 


Oh, and I know that you said there will be some seats for the elderly and others in the front, but as someone in my early 20s I don’t think I would feel comfortable taking one of those spots.

Post # 19
2231 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t mind at all. Then again when I used to go to church I would have to stand for an hour or longer as our church has no pews, everyone stands. 

I’m 5’7″ and I’ve been at plenty of sit-down weddings where I can’t see the bride and groom so I don’t think it’s a short thing only. I’m sure it doesn’t help being shorter but if the layout is awkward anyway no one is going to see. 

Post # 20
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m surprised to hear so many people say that 20 minutes is too long to stand & they would be upset. We had a standing only ceremony (save for about 6 chairs for the older people attending). In the year and half following, I haven’t heard one person mention having to stand to watch me get married. (Now, the itchy grass on their legs and the dirt road they had to drive on to get there – that’s something I heard about Smile) I don’t think your guests will be upset and, if they are, they will most likely get over it.

As for not being able to see, we also didn’t have any assigned standing “area”, so everyone moved and curved around us. I believe that everyone who wanted to see us had the opportunity to move to the outside edges and see us. In fact, the photo of all our loved ones scrunched up close in a group watching us say our vows is my most favorite picture of the day & hangs proudly on our wall.

Post # 21
1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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same here.  and i have an old hip injury.  most of the time its fine,  i dont limp or anything,  but standing for 20 minutes will kill me.  and then it would hurt for 2-3 days.  and like you,  i wouldnt feel as if i could take one of the front seats.

i wouldnt be cross.  but i would disappear and ssit on the grass or bench. 

Post # 22
4753 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Keep in mind 20 mintues for ceremony plus 15-30 mins of pre-ceremony time. If it says 2 start I arrive at 1:45 so tack on another 15-30 mintues to the 20mins for ceremony.

Post # 24
10361 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If it’s a venue limitation, I would find a new venue.

If it’s a budget limitation, you should invite fewer people and/or pull from other areas. Folding chairs are only around $1.50 to rent. Not that much.

15-20 mins plus 30+ minutes if they arrive early plus recessional/chatting time after the ceremony can add up to over an hour-hour and a half of straight standing…in the grass…in heels…not able to see a damn thing.

Post # 25
4753 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Sweetie, those are biased opinions. Not very many people will say no bride to be, I don’t want to stand at your wedding for fear of pissing you off or hurting your feelings.

Post # 27
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I stood for an entire wedding and my only complaint was the minister was long winded.  If its 15-20min, I don’t think its a big issue since the setup and the take down can be a chore.  The only reason I agreed to get married in our location(a bluff overlooking the ocean) was due to our chair rental company will take care of delivery, setup and delivery.  Its already going to be fun driving through Laguna Beach so I didn’t need the headache.

I would let ppl know that it will be a standing ceremony as well as the exact time the ceremony will start.  For some crazy reason, ppl don’t believe the procession will start on time.

Post # 28
3670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I didn’t want everyone to have to stand for our ceremony but there wasn’t an option in the end.  We had ordered chairs and they never showed up.  It last about 15 minutes and everyone seemed to be okay.  Luckily my mom brought her wheelchair (she had broken her heel) or it would have been an issue but everyone seemed fine. Before the ceremony started everyone was arrange so everyone could see.  I know some people had on heels too but they seemed absolutely fine with it since it was only 15 minutes. 

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