- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2018
Happy New Year! May 2013 bring you all the happiness and love in the world!
I call upon my wise and loving Bees for some help, cause Mr. 99 and I are in one dilly of a pickle. Some of you may know that my sister got engaged this summer with no small amount of help from Mr. 99 and I which we were happy to provide….since then, she has become a bridal dervish and with a few breakdowns and typical emotional freak outs, she’s selected her bridal party, so has the groom and they’ve got a venue and a date set. Mr. 99 and I are the honored Best Man and Maid of Honor…but there is a HUGE problem looming.
One of the bridesmaids is my SIL, she’s actually Mr. 99’s step sister, and his family and their dynamic is tumultuos to say the least….someone is always angry with someone else, there’s a total breakdown in communication and everyone hits the ceiling. That is what has happened within the family and for our own sense of peace and in the name of healthy boundaries we have decided to distance ourselves from the family, since nothing ever seems to get resolved, and the stress of it all is quite taxing.
Onto the problem, I was well prepared to set all of that aside and declare my sister’s wedding a “Drama Free Zone”, essentially putting myself in the Switzerland position for her happiness…but yesterday, I came home to find the Christmas gifts we had purchased for SIL’s children dumped on my front porch like so much trash and I find myself very concerned that as neutral as I may be, I am not at all confident in the abilities of Mr. 99 or my SIL to remain so, judging from this incident and their past history together, for which they are both responsible, they’re very good at getting each other angry.
Above all things, I do not want my sister’s wedding to become a 99 family war zone, she’s waited her whole life for this and I want it to be a fun and wonderful experience…I have no idea what to do…and no one will take my calls, even my sister…what to do?