- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
I know a lof of you have listened to me vent about my inlaws from quite some time and how they hate me and tried to ruin my bridal shower. Well I got my wish the other night and while it’s a relief it still sucks that things turned out this way. My Future Mother-In-Law came by my house on Friday night and asked if I wanted her kids in the wedding (in their 30’s aka not children). I told her that I asked them to be part of our wedding but understand if they don’t want to. She proceeded to tell me that they would be in my wedding but wouldn’t come to my house or take pictures with me because they refuse to be around me and my mother the day of the wedding, however if I wanted they would still walk down the aisle. With that lovely suggestion, I said that I think it would be better off if they were just guests!
Who refuses to be around the bride on the day of her wedding?! When she left I sat their and cried for a couple of minutes, Fiance didn’t get it because he knew I wanted them out of the wedding because they have been horrible since we got engaged. But I think part of me just hoped that they would step up to the plate and act like grownups.
And my Future Mother-In-Law basically repeated over and over that her kids are adults and she had no control over how they feel and who they like. I just want to know how you don’t take responsibility when you raise your kids to tourture each other.
So two of my FSIL’s and one of their husbands who were originally in the wedding will be guests and my other Future Sister-In-Law, her husband, and child will not even be attending the wedding. Since he is in the military they said it’s just too hard to travel.
So I have lost 3 bridesmaids, 2 groomsmen, and one ring bearer.
But here’e the kicker. We included all of the kids in the wedding since we had a rule that we would not invite children who were not in the wedding. Well my FI’s niece and nephew were supposed to be a jr. bridesmaid and ring bearer. So either I let them come to the wedding just as guests or thier mother will keep them in the wedding and will not have them in pictures or anything having to do with that day, but will simply have them walk down the aisle. Help I need suggestions?