(Closed) Starter ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

@quierajen:  I’m so sorry for what you’re going though! I know the feeling, and it ve sucks to have nice plans laid out, then it’s all wiped out. 

Anyways, to answer your question honestly, it made me feel like crap having a placeholder. It was a sterling silver solitaire from Sears, it was less than $20. It was super cheap looking, and it didn’t fit right so maybe I would have felt differntly had itbeen a nicer ring (like from Berricle). But, when I would tell people I was engaged, and they would grap my hand and see this ring that I wasn’t particularly fond of, at and they would turn up their noses at it, it made me feel like crap, and it took away from the excitement. I know it’s stupid to let people’s reactions to a ring get to you, but it really bothered me. All that said, I don’t want to offend anyone with temp rings, and it can be a good option – just make sure you pick something nice that you are happy with and will be proud to show to people. 

I do not have that ring anymore, the metal got all tarnished and I just threw it out when I got my ering

My suggestions for where to purchase a nice, inexpensive ring is Berricle.com or Overstock.com

 

Good luck!

Post # 5
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You can be engaged without having a ring. You can just tell anyone who asks that you are saving up for the ring you want.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

How sentimental are you?  I am all for placeholder rings, but if it’s something that you want to hang on to forever to remember that period of your relationship, show your children, use as a RHR, etc. you don’t want to go with cz.  When it clouds you’ll need to replace it, and if you’re like me that might make you sad.  I would recommend a cheap gemstone ring.  (No, not all gemstones are cheap, in fact many are as expensive as diamond.)   But just a quick look on amazon and I found a beautiful $30 lab created blue and white sapphire ring.  That is far more durable and should hold up for life, even after you start wearing your permenant engagement ring. 

http://www.amazon.com/Sterling-Silver-Created-Ceylon-Sapphire/dp/B00AZJJOH6/ref=sr_1_1?s=jewelry&ie=UTF8&qid=1362517250&sr=1-1&keywords=sapphire+ring

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Totally in agreement with arendiva here.

Also, my permanent, “real” ring cost les than $100. It IS possible. It is real (albeit tiny) diamonds and 10k gold, if you want a ring out of durable materials you can still find an affordable one on Etsy or from an estate seller/pawn shop or the like.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
Post # 11
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477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mrsmay07:  I know.  At $30 I may have to order it for myself!

Post # 12
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2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

My starter ring was silver with a topaz and cost $80. Now I have my upgrade and I love it! 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My rings are not starter rings. I plan to keep them forever. But I have two rings that are both real gold, with real good prices.

This pink topaz ring I wear on my right hand. Lab created pink topaz, all natural diamonds in the halo, and real white gold. $174 from Walmart or Overstock.com –

Real rose gold, natural morganite. $109.99 From JTV.com –

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If it were me, I would go to MoissaniteCo and buy a loose stone.  I’m going over your $100 budget here. The .66 carat is $135 and then get it set into a sterling silver solitare band. Shouldnt be too hard to manage. I would then keep that stone for the rest of my life and set it into a real gold setting of our choice when we had the money. Moissy is a wonderful gem that doesnt scratch, cloud, break or dull and it looks very traditional. Or, if you could save up for ~$300 you could get it in a real gold setting and the ring would last you your whole life.

http://www.moissaniteco.com/round-moissanite-4prong-solitaire-w-matching-band-p-8236.html

 

 

@quierajen:  

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t mean to sound mean, but this post makes the proposal and engagement seem all about the ring. Yes, it’s nice to be “engaged” and commited, but to me, being engaged means a wedding plan is in the works.  It sounds like you guys just want a ring on the finger and that’s just not necessary to be commited or engaged.   A ring does not equal a promise, the promise can be made with or without a ring.  I mean, even engaged people break their engagement, so what does that say about having a ring and being engaged?  If money was really that tight, personally, I wouldn’t even spend $100 on a place holder ring.  I’d just wait until finances are better to get a ring and start planning a wedding.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@pinkshoes:  What makes you think that a wedding plan isn’t in the works?  For all you know they have a date, or at least a season picked, and have an idea of what they want to do.  Why wait until she can have the dream ring to make a public commitment?  THAT idea makes it all about the ring and detracts from the real meaning. 

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