(Closed) Starting a new job less than 6 months before wedding

posted 5 years ago in Career
  • poll: When should I bring up that I need time off for my wedding ?

    Tell them right away

    Wait a few months

    other..... ?

  • Post # 2
    176 posts
    Blushing bee

    Always tell them about any planned vacation time you already had as soon as possible. Besides, there really shouldn’t be a reason you can’t use some of your vacation days after 6 months 

    Post # 3
    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    Tell them. I started a new job 4 months before my wedding. Took two days off for the wedding and a week for the honeymoon. They should negotiate with you. 

    Post # 4
    183 posts
    Blushing bee

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    bfig2016:  If they want you they want you. Let them know the situation and that you had made plans to take x many days off due to your wedding and unfortuantely those plans can not be changed but you are still extremely interested in the position.


    Post # 5
    5362 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I started a new job the Friday before last and I’m getting married in May. I told her the very first day and she said she would work with me…however, I’m having a destination wedding so I would like 2 weeks, one for wedding and one for honeymoon, but idk if that will happen. We shall see. 

    Post # 6
    9206 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    bfig2016:  I started a new job 3 months before my wedding and took the Friday before the big day plus the follow 2 weeks for my honeymoon. I negotiated it in when I accepted the offer. Frankly if they weren’t going to give it to me I still had a job so I would have passed on the offer. 

    Post # 7
    346 posts
    Helper bee

    I agree with pp, I would tell the employer before signing the contract and remind them the first week. I started a new position in April while my Fiance planned our one week ” engagement vacation” beginning the first week of June. The company was understanding. You should also tell them ASAP to avoid any conflicts w/ other employees’ scheduled vacations.

    Post # 8
    15279 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Depends on the job and the culture there and how much notice they need.  I dont usually mention any vacation until about 4-6 weeks before I go.  Sometimes I plan trips for as little as 2-3 weeks out so that’s all the notice they get.  

    Post # 9
    2842 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

    I would say wait a few months. I just went through this exact situation.

    When I first got hired I made sure they new I needed off for certain days. About two months, in I brought up to the HR lady how I was getting married and those dates were my wedding + honeymoon. Word got around the office naturally and without me having to advertise it to everyone and everyone was really happy and supportive. I think it’s better to not lead with “I’m getting married, I’m going to need this time off.” Let them get to know you more professionally before you bring up something rather personal.

    Post # 10
    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    They are not going to rescind an offer because you are asking for a couple of days off in six months. I think they would appreciate the head’s up.

    Post # 11
    2176 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    I would just take two sick days and be done with it. 

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