Post # 1
Hey bees! I just received word today that I have been selected for a neW job That I interviewed for. We had our first cycle of ttc this past month and it didn’t work. We get married in December, I’m curious as to if I should wait to ttc? Or just put it on hold for a couple months?? we really arent charting a whole lot or anything just taking away protection. How would you handle the situation??
Post # 2
I would keep TTC (whatever that means for you–full-on charting or just taking away contraceptives). There’s no reason that a new job should delay your trying to get pregnant. As a working mother, I can tell you that it will never seem like a convenient time at work to get pregnant. It’s hard when you’re new and establishing yourself; it’s hard when you’re established and deeply involved in various projects.
Post # 3
Do you live in the USA? Make yourself aware of their policy regarding leave and FMLA. For example. I got a job ini 7/2012, got pregnant in 12/2012. I had to work a year before I was eligible for FMLA in order to keep my job. Plus, the only part that would be paid was the vacation/sick time I had remaining. So, I waited 4 ish months. But that’s just me!
Post # 4
How old are you? I think that’s a factor. As PP said, look into the policies of your new employer. I started a new job earlier this summer and am waiting a few months to TTC so that by the time I have a baby, I will have been there for a year and therefore qualify for FMLA. I will only be paid for vacation/sick time I’ve accrued, but being able to take 12 weeks (even largely unpaid) where my job is protected is a big deal.
That said, if we’d already started TTC I could also see not waiting- as another PP said, there’s never a perfect time.
Post # 5
KateriPetrie: I would check to see what the companies policies are as far as maternity leave and health coverage are first. That would influence my decision.
Also, are you planning on working after you give birth? If so, you may want to consider waiting so that you have a longer history with the company when you go on maternity leave.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
KateriPetrie: It depends on the type of job, their rules and the country, but for my job we aren’t eligible for maternity leave until we’ve paid into the company insurance for 12 months. So we’re waiting to ttc 🙂 Congratulations on the new job and find out the rules asap!
Post # 7
Agree about being certain of the new job’s policies first, but once everything is sure, I wouldn’t wait. I was in your exact situation and made the mistake of assuming I’d have any sort of control about when I got pregnant, and so we waited an extra 6 months. We’re now entering cycle 10 of TTC…
Post # 8
KateriPetrie: Congrats on the new gig! Assuming you are in the US, I would wait to TTC until your due date falls after your 1-year anniversary on the job so that you qualify for FMLA. That’s what we are doing and, as much as it kills me to wait, I can’t imagine being pregnant and having no guarantee that my job would be waiting for me after maternity leave. Good luck!!
Post # 9
I would wait, because the first trimester can be really rough and I cant imagine having to learn the ropes and prove myself at a new job while feeling so incredibly tired and pukey. Some women get lucky and don’t feel bad at all, but it seems like the majority do. I was falling asleep at my desk every afternoon between five and ten weeks!
Post # 10
KateriPetrie: I agree with others, you need to check out their requirements for maternity leave. Also, the first trimester can be bad with nausea and fatigue. You might want to be a little established before that kicks in.
Post # 11
KateriPetrie: well if you want to get maternity leave benefits I would check what the policy is for how long you have to work there to gain the time off. Some places require you to work a full year before they will give you anything more then the legal minimum without any pay/benefits. If thats the case then I would wait 2-3 months into the job that way by the time you have the baby you will have been there for a year!
and trust me….as someone who is almost 18w… the first trimester can be awful for nausea, extreme exhaustion and gestational headaches (not to be negative) but just saying you may require “sick time” time off plus theres usually doctors appts and blood tests and scans etc you need time off for… so the company may or may not allow you much off during the 1st 3 months which is usually a probation time…..no one can fire you for being pregnant but if your taking too much time off during that probation time they may have a right to terminate you unless you get doctors note after doctors note to prove you need it off (same as any other person who needs a doctors note to verify they are too sick to work)… just because your not feeling well sometimes isnt good enough
Post # 12
Thanks everyone! I’ve been so busy with everything I haven’t had a chance to get back on!